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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes: Okay so recently this boy in my spanish class started talking to me and let me know that he was interested. You see he's two years older than me and has a bit of a bad boy reputation so at first I turned him down, but we ended up kissing and I began to have feelings for him. As soon as I started liking him we had seating changes in spanish and now we barely talk anymore. He also doesn't call me every day like he used to, but when he does its to ask for favors like money or another girls number! He also tells me that lots of other girls seem to like him and that I shouldn't be jealous, but he is constantly telling me about girls that want to date him. Either way what started as a romantic crush has turned into him not talking to me other than to ask for favors or to talk about other girls. I just don't understand if he still has a crush on me, after all he told me that he'd wait for me, but I'm not sure if it's going in the right direction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Sorry but he is using you. Don't let him. He is bad news and you can do better. Respect yourself and don't answer him when he phones.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Honey, I know that you are young and you don't have a lot of life experience,but it's never too early to use your God-given brain. Two plus two always makes four, even at your age.
If he only calls you when he wants money, favours and other girls's number,... how can he still have a crush on you ??? He is taking what he wants, without giving what you want ( time,attention and affection ). He is using you . Do you really think that an user can have sincere feelings about the person he is using ? Or, isn't it more probable that he is bullshitting you to keep the money and the favours coming ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Sweetheart, this boy is taking advantage of knowing that you like him!
If he had any respect or feelings for you of any kind, he would not be asking for other girls numbers!
If he is asking you for money,stop giving any right now.
I know you are worried he will stop liking you, but at least you will know if he has been using you.
Next time he asks for money just tell him in a calm way that you think he is taking advantage of the friendship you have and that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
If this is a crush for you, it will fade with time, honestly it will.
I know a crush is a very strong feeling, but the feelings of being used really do hurt and the more you give and he only takes, the stronger the hurt will get.
Be strong, don't worry about hurting his feelings, he is not worried about hurting yours is he?
Good luck in finding someone who wants to give to you because you are special.
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