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writes:Hey guys hope to get some good opinions here :)Ok so I just started at a new school (graduate program, I'm 22) and a girl in my class really caught my eye. After a couple days of thinking, I decided to try to flirt with her a little which She reciprocated. A couple of weeks have gone by and almost every class (mon-thur) we flirt and talk a bit. She has given me all of the signs (touching, listening, going out of her way to do something for me, footsies etc...)After all of these signs I decided yesterday I'd ask if she wanted a ride home since she always takes the bus. When I asked her she seemed like she was going to say yes, but then said that her house was actually out of my way. In truth, it is. I told her I didn't mind but she insisted she didn't want to "be a bother".Do you guys think it will look desperate if I ask her again the day after, it is going to rain after all. I actually want to just tell her I WANT to give her a ride home, maybe that'll work instead? Do you think she genuinely doesn't want to be a bother?
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reader, figo88 +, writes (6 October 2010):
figo88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate 1 - she was flirting again today in class, holding my arm, shoulders up against mine etc... I teased her about it raining after last class and not taking the ride. She genuinely seemed like she didn't want me going out of my way. Anyways I told her it wasn't a problem at all and I think she got the hint, I may ask to keep her company on the way home tomorrow so I can have a chance to ask her out.
Thanks for the comments so far!
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reader, figo88 +, writes (6 October 2010):
figo88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate 1 - So we were playing "footsies" all class today, and I approached her about taking the ride. I made a joke of it because it started raining after the class I asked. She said she genuinely didn't want me going out of my way. Again all while holding my arm, shoulders together all that stuff.
She seemed as if she regreted not coming along with me. I think tomorrow I'm going to ask her out, maybe even offer up another ride.
Also to whoever said she might think I'm lame cause it's been 2 weeks, I'm not talking about full conversations over that period of time, just little clues here and there everyday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Why not ask her out of a date instead? She can't say she'd be a bother then, and you might get a straight answer.
It could be that she is trying to discourage you though, so be prepared for that possibility. If she does, don't take it personally, as people get rejected every day. Just move onto the next one.
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reader, nightshade41  +, writes (6 October 2010):
Lets see you were flirting for 2 weeks when she was reciprocating immediately. She probably thinks you are lame.
But keep trying maybe after acting like a bimbo she feels she needs to make you chase her.
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