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My childhood love is now married, help!

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Question - (11 June 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 20 June 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, *thenas writes:

Im 20 yrs old and im dating my best friend for ever. We have been friends for 10 years already when we were younger he asked me if i wanted to be his girlfriend i said no because i was way too crazy for him and i knew i would hurt him. i left for two years made my life and when i came back i didnt have a chance to see him so 2 other years passed by and we saw eacother and we started flirting and we got to the point where we had sex the only problem is that hes married! and were both crazy for eachother. Whats worst is that i talk to his wife shes not my friend but when i see her i talk to her i feel guilty but i like him should i just stop this? am i being selfish in just thinking and caring for what i feel?

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A female reader, athenas United States +, writes (20 June 2009):

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Thanks everyone that day that i wrote this question i stopped everything that was going on between us he was shocked but i realized that im waisting my time with him and that his wife deserves respect thanks to everyone

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009):

You are already feeling guilty and know that she would be upset. Rather than carry on with a cheat, why not find someone of your own. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

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A female reader, cindy888 United States +, writes (11 June 2009):

Having four years go by without any contact really doesn't qualify this person as a best friend so I think you are rationalizing things to make it sound more justifiable the cheating. People change so much from age 14 to age 20 and he is married so you are going to get really really hurt once you find out you come second to his wife. You are having fun but you will soon be over your head while you sit at home alone thinking about him and he's in bed making love to his wife. Don't believe what he tells you if he says the typical lines like his wife doesn't satisfy him or he's not happy or any of the other classic lines married men use, they lie. You know you should stop this.

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