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writes:my boyfriend's ex girlfriend really hurt him when it came to the end of there relationship and now she is starting to talk to him again and i really dont like it but i know he wont do anything and if she made any form of move he would tell her to go away and he is not interested and i trust him but i really really dont like her even if she is just asking how he is and id like for her to back off and leave him alone and i havnt met her but the way she hurt him i just want to slap her , he is so wonderful and is such a gentleman and for the life of me i cant see why his ex girlfriends let him go and i feel so lucky to have him were moving in together at the end of the month but she has now creeped out of the woodwork and we are arguing over that i dont like him talking to her cause i feel she has a hidden agenda , am i being paranoid or jealous or just protective of him ? i need some advice please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): yea, I hate this issue, I'm dealing with it now. You are not alone. I would honestly just tell her. Don't hide it. Thats not fair to you. And if he truly had no interest in her, he'd be okay telling her to back off or letting you do the honors. Unless he's that nice guy type that doesn't wanna be mean like my boyfriend...ugh. guys..
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (28 May 2010):
 Oh yeah, you're not being paranoid at all. Exes are always bad news.
The key here is in your trust in your man. He sounds like a great guy, and if you trust that he won't let her get one inch into his life, you've got nothing to worry about. If she gets too cozy, you have the right to tell your man to tell her to back off. You can tell her the same thing too.
Ugh. Exes. :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): I totally understand your concern as I was in a similar situation with my ex almost two years ago....in the end, she got what she wanted and that was HIM. Listen, and listen good, if your boyfriend still has feelings for his ex, there is nothing you can do about it. All the great sex in the world will not make those feelings cease, all nagging in the world can't change how he feels..that is....IF....he feels that way.
I would tell your boyfriend how you feel, but don't come off as being jealous even though you maybe in your mind. Just play it calm, cool and collect and sit back at obeserve his behavior and what he says. Believe me, TIME TELLS ALL. But don't nag him about it, and don't accuse him of anything that you don't have solid proof of...for instance, if you don't have proof of cheating, don't accuse him to his face directly. Take it from there and see where it goes and if in the end you find out that he is seeing his ex again, then the best thing to do is to let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): ya its completely okay to be jealous....may be he can move on with her..so this is the way: u directly talk to his ex. and tell her how much u him..
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