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writes:I'm 18 and my boyfriend is twenty. I'm still in school and he's working. I don't have a problem with him working it's just I never get to see him because he works all day and then comes home late. I know he needs the money to survive and stuff but a quick call 2 or 3 minutes just to see how he's doing would be fine. He doesn't answer text till the weekend or at the crack of dawn, and he can never go anywhere. We were supposed to go out on Friday last week and we couldn't because he was too tired from work. I just don't know anymore. I know this may sound selfish but I want my boyfriend back. I know he loves me, he tells me every time we do actually talk. All I'm asking for is a quick call or text when he gets the chance. Am I a bad girlfriend for wanting him to do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay so we talked about how each of us feel and he also felt we weren't talking as much as he'd like us to. we are both busy but we've set a time each day to talk for at least 5 minutes to see how the other is doing and make sure everything between us is okay. thank you for you help :)
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (5 August 2010):
 For how long have you been together? You have to tell him straight, without being afraid you'll get him upset or mad, men aren't intuitive, so if you throw him hints, he might not take note of it. If you think he might get mad because you're asking him an elementary thing in a relationship, then he's not worthy of your time. I absolutely understand, he's too tired and busy, but it's not that great effort to give life signs, even if they were for 2 minutes. Every person has a life outside professional issues. Just be careful, don't turn into a "clingy" girlfriend, men don't function the way we do. He might take it as an insult. Guys don't like to be bugged, because he will probably back out a little (more) and all your efforts were made in vain (trust me on this one). But still, don't just ask "How are you?" - "Fine". These types of short conversations aren't worthy of your time. I once told my boyfriend: "You never call me to ask how I am". He says: "Well, if I call and I ask, you'd most likely say "Fine" and that's the conversation". So, you see a pattern here?You have to tell him that you need him your needs. If he is serious about you, he will consider.Good luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 August 2010):
Are you asking him? Have you specifically said to him "I would like us to speak more". Sometimes you really do have to spell it out.
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