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writes:hi evryone ok i need guys opinions and possibly girls my bf tells me i have a amazing body but i dont see it i have no hips no curves no waist no boobs its very boyish and athletic more athletic i just dont understand y he loves my body so much dont guys love the hourglass figure with the perfect boobs and ass i dont have ne of tht is thr a type tht he prefers over the average guy he tells me im beautiful and tht hes nevr actually met sum1 with such uniqueness in beautiful wht should i believe bc ive been calld 'FUGLY' ive been told tht ive almost made thm throw up but he tells me tht im really beautiful should i just take his compliments or just learn 2 think tht im pretty or just stop bn insecure help me plzzz
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 There is no perfect body because all men like different things. Some like big boobs some find them repulsive.
My husband likes women with a fuller figure and doesnt mind a bit of fat, his brother likes stick thin women.
Your boyfriend is with you not someone with an hourglass figure, if thats what he had wanted he wouldnt be with you now. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and when we are truly in love with someone they are the most beautiful person in the world.
My husband tells me I'm beautiful everyday and I think he's gorgeous, doesnt matter what anyone else thinks x
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 July 2008):
 In society who came up with the idea of what the perfect body should look like? Did you think maybe he enjoyes being with you because you are you? Do you find it wrong that he finds you beautiful?
We have a society that has made up this look through advertisements and such. Then women feel bad if they don't fall right within those boundaries.
I'll tell you about their false interpretation. I saw an interview (no I don't watch porn) with girls who pose for playboy magazine. They claim if it wasn't for computer touch up abilities, they would not qualify to be in the magazine.
Being a guy, my qualifications in what I look for in a woman, is 100% natural. I don't go for the implants, tucks, plastic surgery. The way you describe youself would be perfect, as long as surgeries and such were not used to get that way.
Remeber you are always perfect because you are you. Identical only to yourself. Also, if your not a nice person, your form wouldn't make much difference. People are who they are from the inside out. Love yourself for who you are and who you choose to be. That's what matters. I don't think he's lying when he tells you how he feels. You decide why you're with him, he decides why he's with you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Don't believe anything anyone else tells you. If your boy friend tells you that you're beautiful, you should believe that you are! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, and trust me. Everyone is different! To help you see how beautiful you really are, ask your boyfriend to make a list of what he likes about you... you'll probably see that there's a lot on this list, more than you expected to see!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (12 July 2008):
 You know, not ALL guys like big boobs and skinny girls. Some of them like them big boned, some others liked them with small boobs. It's a guys preference and to actually tell you, most people who think a girl is beautiful usually look up to your face and beyond that. They look into your eyes and see your personality and intelligence. If you want to see a girl with little boobs and average curves yet is stunningly beautiful (based on many guy's opinions) is Keira Knightley.
Now, I think what your boyfriend tells you is just incredible. You think you have a "bad/ugly" body and he tells you you have the sexiest body he's ever seen. To me that's the best compliment you can get, for someone that loves you to tell you you're attractive. Who cares someone else thinks you're ugly? No, that they think you're "fugly", what kind of maturity do you find on people who use that word? None! Those people only see the "magazine beauty" that is mostly airbrushed painted faces.
I also have the same issue sometimes, actually, many women have that issue. We think we're ugly or unnatractive when actually we might just be the opposite. I have applied this excersise on me that has worked so good to improve my self-image. Every morning when I wake up, after a shower or get dressed up, I look at the mirror and SMILE and I tell myself "I am a beautiful person, both inside and out". If you keep on repeating this to yourself, you will end up believing it. Please do this excersise. I know it might sound to you a bit egotistical and dumb, but it works and it's true.
You are a beautiful person and I'm so glad your boyfriend sees that in you. Now, the trick is to make yourself believe this. Doing the excersise helps a little but it will help you. But I bet with your boyfriend's help, your self esteem will boost up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Oh, sweetie....Please learn to love your self just as your boyfriend does. He finds your "Boyish" figure very attractive, and I'm sure in his heart he trully does. Not all men like the "Hourglass figure." That is great news since I do not have the hourglass figure, as most woman don't. He likes you for you...so shouold you, and the person who called you "Fugly," needs to be shot multiple times with a bee bee gun, just because it would be fun!!!! Please know that I will be praying for you Sweetie.
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