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writes:So, I'm 19 and I have my first boyfriend of all time. I'm excited, I adore him, I find him to be the sweetest boy I've ever met...unfortunately, this is a long distance relationship. We have to communicate over skype more often than anything. We met through playing video games, and I love that we have the same interests... but... It's become a bit forward, too. You see, I've noticed the pass few days that he's been talking over me. I think it's an accident, so I don't really pay attention and just listen quietly and give my 'mmhmms' when he needs them. I do listen, I take in everything he says and even comment when I feel it's appropriate. But, he doesn't respond the same way. He gets overly excited about his games, and sometimes when I'm mid-sentence he shouts out, interrupts, and then starts a whole new conversation. For example, I got great news that I was getting an A on a college exam."Hey! guess what, I passed my te-" "OH! Did I tell you what happened to me today on _(insert game name here)_""No?""*begins to ramble on about game*"Or when I finally do get a sentence in, it's always a small 'yeah' or 'no' and then it's back to gamer talk. Finally, it's not only that. It's that he shows no interests in my hobby. I support his (gaming) we both share that! But... I also like photography, and I'll get really excited to show him one of the pictures that I took and he'll go "I'll look at it later..." or "lemme finish this first and I'll look at it" "I'll look at it in a bit" Or he'll completely ignore me. I don't know if this is normal, I've never been in a relationship before. Am I being too... Hurt? over all of this? Once more, I adore him. He is such a sweet guy. He texts me at all hours of the day just to tell me he loves me and hopes I'm having a nice time doing whatever.He's funny, makes me laugh and even plans future 'dates' that we can do together, yet apart from our huge distance from eachother. so, I'm not complaining! Far from it. I'm just curious!
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (21 January 2012):
I am a gamer myself. And I have had some brave girlfriends and wives address this with me myself.
You want to be the most important thing in his life, and I understand that. Games are addictive and easy to get obessed about. I know.
Good luck, and you're welcome.
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reader, Ebonypetals +, writes (21 January 2012):
Ebonypetals is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, Kyle! He is in no way cruel or mean. Just a little distant and obsessed with his games is all, haha!.
And Domo- I'm so glad we have so much in common! I shall talk with him about it (hopefully) and I thank you so much for your advice.
Thank you both so much! Lots of love!
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (21 January 2012):
He may not be interested in photography, but he is probably at least interested in you.Does he express an interest in you, like tell you how he feels about you, etc?Is he hurtful or insulting?If its not outright viciousness, you can address this lightly with him.
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reader, Domolovescookies +, writes (21 January 2012):
 LOL ... oh how I wish I could talk to you more.
what you have managed to type here, is the exact replica of the story of my life 3
My boyfriend and I have been long distance for about a year and hes just about the most avid hardcore gamer out there. I'm a gamer... but not that much. My favorite hobby is graphic design and I always want him to look over my art... but hes often saying those same things your guy said. Soooo... you know what I did? I quit trying to tell him how I felt on skype (by golly that talking over me... never really gave me the chance) and I typed it alllll out, how I felt, how I loved certain things, and the things about him I hated, and why. the "why" is the important part... dont just accuse accuse accuse, come back to your feelings and say how it makes you feel. End it on a happy note, tell him how much you love him and that you cant wait to talk to him again. (I left my note on fb message... I knew he checked first thing in the morning) Often times, I think people do not even realize they are hurting their loved one.
I want to say... me and my bf, one issue that we have that a lot of people have is that at random times we dont know what to talk about. the silence... ack ack ack.
My point is, even though what you are seeing is that he wont let you talk etc, also, I want you to notice that he is excited to talk to YOU and has sooo much he wants to tell you. That is because he loves you~! XD I can't tell you how much gamer talk i've been through...
anyhow, I really wish you good luck. After communicating with him what the issue is, come back and give us an update!!
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