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writes:I have been my boyfriend Andrew on and off for 3 years he's 29 I'm 26 we have a beautiful 2 year old daughter we have officially been dating for 5 months he says he loves me but he never shows it he's great with his daughter and my oldest who's not his but there's many things he does that's making me think otherwise for one his own parents don't even know he has a child I have told him many times about this but it goes in the one ear and out the other I'm also beginning to think he's just using me for sex we have always had a wonderful sex life together he's definitely the best I have ever had but outside the bedroom he excludes me in a lot like christmas that just passed he went away without me and his child his daughters birthday just passed he got her nothing my birthday went he said he was broke but swore he take me to a nice restaurant which he hasint done I'm not cared about that he could have atleast pitched and saw me but he didint . I'm also beginning to think he's seeing someone behind my back he has sworn up and down he's not but I don't know what to think anymore as he's such a liar .I have tried a million times to break up with him he begs me not to his stomach starts to hurt he can't eat when I don't talk to him or even answer a message he says he will make it up to me but he never does he says it kills him when I'm mad at him and that he loves me so very much I can't take this anymore I love him I really do but I can't take his ways anymore its making me depressed and unhappy with life. he just refuses to let me leave him
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (2 February 2013):
 I'm sorry.... but I am having a tough time getting past, "...we have a beautiful 2 year old daughter we have officially been dating for 5 months ..." Since that child was - evidently - spawned 33 months ago. WHAT was your status for the intervening 28 (33 - (minus) 5) months???
No real response until I can get the time-line straight...
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): "he just refuses to let me leave him"Impossible. Not true. Bullshit. You don't need his permission to leave him, you just refuse to stop being his doormat. He will continue to walk all over you as long as you let him, and apparently you will continue yo let him as long as he tells you exactly what you want to hear because you want to believe it even though you know he's a liar. Stop setting a terrible example for your kids by allowing this lying, cheating, self-absorbed, cowardly, grovelling, snivelling weasel to treat you with such absolute contempt.Muster up some brains and backbone, and walk away with pride and dignity intact. Men can't disrespect women who respect themselves. If want to do what's right for you and your kids, then stop whining and dump him. If not, then stop complaining.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (2 February 2013):
No, from what you’re telling us, he does not refuse to let you leave him. He just doesn’t make it easy for you to walk away because he obviously has feelings for you, even if he is too foolish to change his ways. If you love him, have you talked to him and tried to get him to change? Have you explained why you wish to leave? If you think there’s no saving this relationship, or you want out, then leave. He’s not going to smile and wish you farewell, he is going to beg and tell you he loves you if he wants you to stay. You just have to stick to your guns, wish him well, be fair with his parental access and walk away. That might sound tough but that’s how it is.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, blondebunnyzn +, writes (2 February 2013):
blondebunnyzn is verified as being by the original poster of the question I'm also convinced he's a sociapath he has all the Characteristics of one he literally plays with my head one minute he's all over me then I don't hear from and then he's back sweet talking me the lies and stories he comes up with are absurd and almost some what believable. He has a distorted perception when it comes to sex; when I first started seeing him he suggested a three some with him and one of his male friends who saw me once and thought I was hot.I know I should have dumped him then and there but I have been sticking it through for our childs sake as I want her to have a decent family upbringing. He's good with her and my oldest he really is, but to me he emotinally drains me to the point where I can't eat go out or sleep he doesn't seem to care what he does. I have tried so so hard to leave him but he won't let me go, he keeps saying he loves me over and over again but his behaviour says otherwise.He's got some sort of an evil hold on me and he knows it too. I love him so much but I can't take what's going on is this all in my head, am I been paranoid for nothing?
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