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anonymous
writes:Me and my bf have been going out for a year and a bit more.. but recently.. he's had something going on (not cheating)his uni friend.. he likes her, like next potential gf.a few weeks before today he was suddenly cold to me.. from a buildup of the things i did (apparently) such as typing while on the phone with him, 'making' him travel all the way to me to have lunch while he has to travel all the way back to work but then when i saw him he was all moody.. all this stuff added up.. then that night that i confronted him why he was being so cold to me and asked him what i did, he said all that etc and i apologised because i didnt want to fight with him anymore.. im scared of losing him. he was still angry at me, until at night when he got over it and we started being somewhat normal again.then the next day i asked him to come out at 5pm for a nice date, a walk, anything, just something nice, and around 6 only after i messaged him saying i was seriously worried about him, that i found out he was shopping, with HER. i didnt say anything, i just said oh ok and hanged up on him while i cried my way homethen eiither he felt bad or something happened, because around 10pm at night he initiated to call me, usually this would not be the case..then things were ok from then on..then today.. i was going through his phone because i really wanted to know.. why this sudden change, i know i shouldnt question if things are going my way.. but i still felt uncomfortable about thm two.. cos they msg alot and they live really near each otherbut yeah, i saw this msg between him and his other frend.. i could only see the inbox, couldnt see his replies.. and on the morning that i asked him to come out for a date kind of thing (mentioned up there)they were talking about him intending to break up with me.. me doing things to annoy him..and his friend said "didnt you say you had your eye on someone else anyway? i think thats a sign it's not working" i didnt confront him.. im too scared.help me please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Oh hun, I'm sorry to hear about this. From what you've said, it's pretty clear that he's not intending to be in the picture for much longer. You don't deserve to be victimised for stupid little things like you describe. You need to talk to him.
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