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writes:my boyfriend always iniates sex and then afterwards tells me that he didn't want it and only did it for me. i don't care whether i get any or not and he is the one who gives all the signals and leads me to the bedroom so why does he keep saying this? did he actually want it or not? help!!! what should i do Reply to this Question
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (5 November 2009):
 That's the biggest load of hogwash. If he didn't want to do it he wouldn't get aroused. He can't fake that, a man is either ready for sex or not.
The next time he initiates it tell him that you already finished on your own, because you didn't want to inconvenience him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 November 2009):
He doesn't sound all that great. Sex isn't a favour that you do for someone, it's something you do because you want to. Next time he initiates it, back off and tell him you're not in the mood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): I agree with thenotsogreat. Next time he tries to initiate things remind him that he has told you on a number of occasions that he hasn't wanted to have sex and only did it for your sake; point out that you don't want to cause him that kind of problem and make him do something he doesn't want to do (!), and see how he reacts. Stand your ground as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): In a backhanded way he's trying to make you feel like he's doing you a favor, which is a pretty rotten view when it comes to having sex. It sounds like he's not mature enough for this kind of physical relationship. The next time he initiates sex, remind him that you're not a charity case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): hes lying obvously. I think he is trying to control you, so your greatful to him for sex.
Next time he leads you to his room, stop him and say you only want to if he does too. that should stop that nonsense
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