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*eird_Chick
writes:I am 14 and have trouble eating! I think i am pudgy! my boyfriend tells me all the time that he loves how i look, and that im not pudgy, and anytime i see like family now, they always tell me that i look like i've gotten skinnier, and my sister is even saying that i look like skinny now. but im not! im super pudgy! ... well thats what i think, and so for the past 3 years i've had issues with eating and self esteem and depression, and so i would eat maybe one time a day and that would be like a little bit of popcorn or some spongebob fruit snacks. well, last year my sister and i were fighting and i think she just called me this cuz we were arguing, but i took it personally even though i weigh a lot less than her and she called me a fat cow, and i got depressed and didnt eat for 18 days, and i got really sick and started to loose my vision and everything would go black and i got really dizzy and had to go to the doctors and they sent me to the hospital and they said i had dehydrated myself, so i had to get IV's and fluids and stuff. and my boyfriend made me promise to eat at least once a day everyday, cuz he's not ok with my schedual of eating a little bit every 3 days. and i REALLY dont want to eat, and the other day when he was over here my tummy growled and i got really sad and he told me to go eat and i started crying cuz i didnt want to, and i didnt want him to know i was hungry cuz then he would know im starving myself for as long as i possibally can that day. :( i dont want to make him sad, but i dont want to eat, and if he tells me to, and i do, i get sad and cry but he gets happy cuz im not starving myself. what am i suppose to do!?!?!?!?!?!?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 NOW LISTEN TO THE PEOPLE WARNING YOU About the eating disorder thing...It's the damn truth! You are at a very vulnerable age and the letter you write is just classic low self esteem due to "comparative analysis" (probably not a medical tern but I don't claim to know medicine). I'm old enough to recognize a sure cry for help though. PLease remember ONE thing. All those trim and slim chicks on TV are no happier than anyone else!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 I really hope you listen carefully to this: You have an eating disorder and you need to go to the doctor ASAP. This will not get better on its own, you have a real illness and this can only be cured with medical help.
It appears you have anorexia and if this continues, it can kill you. Let me say that again - if you dont get help you will die. Anorexia is where you dont eat anywhere near enough food to sustain your body, because in the mind of the sufferer (e.g. you) they are fat and food is the enemy. The way to control their feelings is to not eat, and the growls of the stomach are almost victory pains, like you are winning over your hunger. But what happens when you dont eat enough to sustain the body is that your body starts eating its own muscle, so you get thinner and thinner and start wasting away. You no longer have much muscle left - and this is where the problem occurs. Your heart is a muscle, and if you let the anorexia get really bad it will start eating the heart muscle, causing you to have heart failure and that will kill you.
Other issues with having anorexia is your hair starts to fall out because you do not have the nutrients in your body to help it grow, you will have a fine covering of hair all over your body because you have no body fat to keep you warm - so you almost grow "fur" to keep your body warm. Your periods will stop if they havent already, and often anorexia causes infertlity in later life because you have done so much damage to your internal organs.
I'm sure you dont want to be ill, nor do you want to kill yourself. So please, get help as soon as you can. Anorexia is very serious, I cannot stress that enough to you. So please, visit the doctor as soon as you can and get help. Only a doctor will be able to help you, you need to see a professional to deal with this.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 August 2010):
 You boyfriend and your family love you and are acting in your best interests. Do listen to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): hi
honestly you will do more harm than good, not eating will cause malnutrition and (someone correct me if im wrong) that causes stomach bloating.
on the other side my GF is the same i think she is perfect and when she dont eat it gets to me all i am doing is looking out for her health and i bet that is all he is doing for you.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 I know that you think you are pudgy, but if you mostly only eat popcorn and spongebob ... thingys, then I guarantee that you would be anything but pudgy. Listen to your boyfriend, friends and family... they are much better judges of your weight and health right now as honestly, it sounds like you have an eating disorder. You may need to get some help sweetheart.
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