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writes:i sort of split from my boyf despite being in love with each other because i felt like things were going a bit too fast and we were wanting different things.i tell him i miss him but he doesnt seem to say that but i think maybe he does as he once told me that even tho he doesnt text alot etc hes always thinking about me...do men in genreal find it hard to say 'i miss you' 'i love you' etc thank-you x
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (22 August 2008):
 My guess is that you hurt him pretty badly when you decided to break up with him. He let himself be vulnerable by being in a relationship with you, and you decided to end it. Now he's not willing to expose himself again, even verbally, to the possibility of further hurt from you. It's a "hurt me once, shame on you; hurt me twice, shame on me" situation.
Yes, he probably still does love you and still does miss you. Your instincts are pretty good in that regard. But do you really expect him to open himself up like that after you have put him through what you did? Would it make any difference if he did? You'd still be broken up. He'd still be hurting. He'd be putting his emotions out on a limb, and for what? What would you be doing differently if he DID tell you he loves you and he misses you? Do you just want the satisfaction of knowing that, even though you've broken up with him?
Don't expect a man to crawl after you've dumped him. If he still has his pride and his instincts for self-preservation, it's not likely to happen. He's already told you once that he's always thinking of you. Let it go at that. I don't think you're going to get a lot more out of the guy you've discarded.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 August 2008):
Well if he's split up with you then of course he's not going to say he loves you or he misses you.
He's trying not to lead you on or hurt you... or himself.
If you are not together then he is going to try to work on getting over you, and to be honest you should be doing the same and not prolonging the agony.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Dhian-X +, writes (22 August 2008):
 most men are like that i would say. girls like saying stuff like that to there boyfriends. but when it comes back to the boys saying it they usually don't, although they do actually feel that way. i don't reckon it anything to worry about.
let me know what happens,
good luck,
dhian
xxx
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