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30-35,
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writes:We have been on and off for 3 years now, long story short the last time we got back together has been almost perfect. He even surprised me with a promise ring on Valentines Day. Everything was going good until he started to recently choose his guys friends over me and the bar to go out and get drunk instead of making time to hang out with me. We hadn't seen each other for a whole week, and the funny thing is he lives right up the street from, we had plans to hang this Saturday then out of now where he tells me its one of his friends birthday and asked if we could only hang for two hours and then he was gonna go out.This was the 3rd weekend he pulled this kind of bs, so I told him I'm not gonna have him half ass sh*t with me, all he would want to do in those two hours was try and have sex, and then would go out. When I would rather actually go out and do something! Go to dinner, go to a movie, arcade, anything but just stay home and mess around! All he does through out the week is tell me how much he misses me and sh*t but then when the time comes where he can actually see me he chooses drinking and the bars over me. I grew up with my dad drinking a lot, and I myself don't drink and hate being around drunk people. and he's started to develop a lot of these habits.He says I'm over reacting but I don't think I am, also in the past he's gave out his number to girls and done a lot of shady stuff behind my back while out drinking with his friends. So I deff don't have his full trust.The easy thing for me to do would be to move on, but I don't I can quite yet. I've already tried talking to him and telling him how I feel and how it pushes me away when he does this, and all he says is that not every weekend is going to be like this. What should I do? Any advice would be helpful!
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (6 March 2011):
It's quite simple, you tell him you want to spend more time with him when he would ordinarily be out with his mates (don't tell him to stop seeing them - that won't happen).If he can't agree to that, then you're wasting your time.Realistically though, it seems there is only one person in this relationship and it's you. You would be best getting rid.
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