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My boyfriend can't get an erection unless his penis is in contact with my genitals! Why is this?

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Question - (16 February 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 February 2007)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

my boyfriend can't get an erection unless his penis is in contact with my genitals. Plus he often loses it halfway through sex or can't get it up altogether. No amount of foreplay or oral can get him back on track. He says "it's not you it just has a mind of it's own"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007):

Hey guys; Me again. Thank you both for your advice and TasteOfIndia.. you were right, it wasn't me! Ok, so i broached the subject with him very tentativly, as in "i adore you and it makes me happy to please you so plz tell me if i turn you off in some way or if there's something missing i should do". He became all self conscious and apologetic. Said i was perfect, that he knew he had performance anxiety, it had haunted him in previous relationships, that i was the 1st person ever to see him naked.. It just said so much and it broke my heart :( I just held him and said i adored him for him and wasn't with him for the sex, that i loved being with him and everything he did in bed. And guess what? The next time we were together was just AMAZING, no hitches whatsoever! Thankyou both again, thought i owed you the happy ending to the story ;)

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (16 February 2007):

TasteofIndia agony auntHey there,

Kenny was right. He should just go ahead and check in with a doctor and see if there's a pill he can take or maybe if there's something wrong with him. I DON'T think he was lying to you, I don't think it's you. I know how hurtful it can be, when it feels like he's just not getting pleasure no matter how hard you try. You put the blame on yourself.

Well, I think he's got something heavy on his mind, or his 'little friend' just isn't working the way it ought to. It really IS him. Just have him go to the doctor and see what's up.

xxIndia

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (16 February 2007):

kenny agony auntthere are many things that can contibute to erectile disfunction. Stress or something he is worrying about, depression. Or alchohol can play a big part also, what we call brewers droop.

get him to pop along to your local GP, im sure maybe he can prescribe something to get him back on track.

good luck x

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