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*alling4
writes:My boyfriend just broke up with me right on our one year mark. We had a great relationship, and I didn't think anything was wrong. We lived together too. He said he just wants to be single right now. He said he wants to be single for the next 5 years until he gets his ticket to be an electrician and maybe then we might be able to get back together? 5 years from now? He also said he "really wants to be friends." I've been trying to be friends with him, so we went out partying. Guys ended up hitting on me and he got really jealous and started acting immature, telling me to go after every guy that walked by me... This tells me that he might have feelings for me, but he doesn't want to get back together. I don't want to hope that we will get back together and get my heart crushed again. I just want to know if it sounds like there is a chance we'll get back together or if I should just move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Hi, I know this one sooooooooo well! He wants his cake and to eat it too honey. He is keeping you on the back burner for when he is ready to commit. To me it sounds that right now he doesnt want you, but doesn't want anybody else to have you either!! I've been through this and the emotional torture of always looking for signs of hope is unbearable. Be the best that you can be, keep busy and eventually it will be a distant memory. While you're focusing all your time to try be with somebody like this, somebody out there is waiting for you to love you unconditionally :) Move on sweetie if there is no hope, there can be no despair xx
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reader, falling4 +, writes (8 February 2011):
falling4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know for sure there was no third party. He said he just wants to be single right now and when we first broke up he wasnt being a good friend so I explained to him that I don't want him to be friends with me out of guilt and all that crap and he said he was sorry and that he really does want to be friends with me.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 I think you should move on. Being friends with an ex is also nearly impossible. His behavior is proof of that.
He passed on something that could have been great. Time to find someone who won't pass you up.
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reader, Lollypop12  +, writes (8 February 2011):
Hi There
Sorry to hear about whats happening. Can I be truthful? Walk away now! He wants to be friends = he is trying to ease the guilt he feels by hurting you. He wants to be single for the next 5 years is a ridiculous thing to say because none of us know what the future holds in store, it feels like an excuse to me. The thing to remember is, its his problem not yours, you said the relationship was fine then he broke up with you. Any possibility of a thrid party? Dont waste your time wondering if he is going to come running back as life is too short, and put his jealousy over men hitting on you out of your mind, focus on the fact they were hitting on you, ultimatley it is his loss. Life is to short for this and is if he did come back, how insecure will you be wondering if and when he will do this again? Massivley so and it will grind you down. Do yourself a favour honey, pick your self up and dust yourself off and get back to living YOUR life, let him live is, trust me , one day he will regret it, maybe not Today or Tomorrow, but at some point in the future he will and you will be in a loving relationship with a man who has backbone, and you can gloat then until your hearts content, remember, what goes around comes around and he will at some point be treated in exactly the same way he has treated you. You reap what you sow.
Good luck and chin up. Be a woman not a victim.
Mwaah
xxx
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