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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend asked me how big/small his penis was compared to my exes. when i said i didn't remember he said i was lying. so then i said fine, they were all smaller, then he was angry that i remembered what their penises looked like! why is he doing this? it hurts me, and he doesn't understand that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): I think he's really just hurt/concerned that you've had other sex partners in your life besides him. That's normal, but he's not handling it in a fair way.
Part of the problem is that so many guys think every man's lovemaking skills can be measured with a ruler on their penis. You need to try to dispel this idea to him. And if he really doesn't understand this, then he could probably use some info to be a better lover in the first place.
(I know a big difference in size can make a difference for some women. But you didn't say that his size was bothering you any, so I'm assuming it's not an issue for you when sleeping with him.)
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reader, oldfool + ♥, writes (4 July 2008):
 You're damned if you do and damned if you don't!
Tell him you don't remember them very well, you just know that his size was overwhelming so of course you noticed that they were smaller than his. HIS is the only penis that you remember in any detail. All the others hardly made much impression, except that they were SMALLER.
Tell him you love everything about his penis, including the freckle/mole/spot/bend/head/throbbing veins or whatever is outstanding. The other guys weren't memorable enough to remember a lot about.
If he persists in being an arsehole, you could always suddenly think and say, "I do remember one guy who had a really thick cock, actually even thicker than yours. It wasn't that long but made a huge impression going in. And there was another one that was a bit longer than yours, and used to go right in where I could feel it." Be prepared for him to become very sexually jealous and sexually aggressive, though! Probably not a good idea if you want to keep him!
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 The guy is a total Jackass. How can he get all angry with you over BS like that? If anything he should be happy you are not the size freak he thinks you are. AS a matter of fact you should just tell him is dick is the smallest one you ever seen just to get back at him for being as ass.
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reader, cupidguy +, writes (4 July 2008):
He is immature no doubt. What is in the past, should be left in the past, especially relationships. He may have done this to find out if you like him more then the others. Seems like a dumb thought, but low self esteem; been hurt before, brings the worse out of us sometimes.
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reader, Tremor + ♥, writes (4 July 2008):
 Try turning the table. Ask him how your boobs or your girly bits compare to /his/ exes.
All in all, I'd have to agree with q1605. He wants his ego stroked (among other things, probably), as well as making you feel bad in the process. He sounds like a bit of a knob, and you might want to reconsider where your relationship is headed if he's going to keep this up.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (4 July 2008):
 thats bullshit. he is setting you up so no answer is the right one. Get cheeky with him if hew insists on being crude. ASk him if he would remember an erect penis closing in on his nether regions. You might want to think of ditching this guy. Before you get too involved. He's a dick um bastard and I don't think it will get better
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