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writes:i am new with this whole advice thing. but I feel like my best friend is replacing me with her new boyfriend. i have talked to her countless times. she is in pure denial, and her attitude is changing for the worst. she stays up all night talking to him, she gets about 5 hours of sleep. she isnt the same. i try telling her how i feel and that i miss her. she wont listen. im also afraid her new boyfriend is going to pressure her into doing something she is uncomfortable doing. she has changed so much. i just dont know what else to do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Sadly dear she is replacing you. and when they break up she will need you and want you...
of course in the throes of a new relationship you run on adrenalin... she's up talking to him... very little sleep is required.. .they have so much to say to each other... it's part of love... and it will change and settle down...
if you are afraid that she will be doing illegal things (drugs or stealing or killing) then you have a right to be concerned.
IF she's over 18 and your concern is that she will be sexual with him... then it's really none of your business...
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 There isn't really anything you can do. This has been happening to between girlfriends, well, forever. Just give her space, and when things settle down, you will still be friends I'm sure. Your friend is an adult, I am assuming, so she will have to make her own decisions where her relationship with her boyfriend are concerned. But if she makes mistakes, then you as her friend will be there to support her.
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reader, mima  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Hi, I think you sound a little above normal disturbed level now about this.You are her best friend and he is her boyfriend (two different stages) so you don't get to feel bad when she talks all night to him because they are in love and that or even more happens with new relationships.You just feel left out.You just advice her to take things easy and you should too. She is not replacing you, she is in love.Or perhaps you have a hidden crush?
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