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writes:So about two months ago, while married and living in California, I accepted a job in Utah. My wife was to stay behind in California until she got a job in Utah, and then move with me. She even wrote dozens of cute little notes telling me how much she loved me and stuck them in the boxes as I packed, only for me to find when I got to Utah.So, as soon as I got here (a month ago) she told me she wanted a divorce and she wouldn't be coming to Utah to join me. In that time, she's gone through periods of frequent calling/texting, and frequent periods of ignoring me. She'll send me text messages at random hours telling me she misses me, but when I ask if she's meaning anything more than that, she tells me she still wants a divorce. Last night, I wouldn't respond to her, and she kept calling (even though she regularly ignores me.) Today, she asked me to come visit her, but told me that I would be sleeping on the couch and there would be no sex or love. Just friendship.What should I make of all this? Does she want me to come back, and is confused... or does she want me to stay out of her life, and is confused? Is she trying to rekindle things in a no pressure environment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): I can't give you a clear cut answer on this one...but she sounds very confused... and it is very unfair to you. As my mother would say, "You either need to poop, or get off the pot." That is all I can say...If she keeps stringing you along, find yourself a person who will love you for you, and move on with life...don't let your ex wife dictate what your life will be like.
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reader, loveguru23 +, writes (14 July 2008):
Speak with her and find out once and for all what she wants. If she want to get back with you, then make that decision and decide if you still want to be with her. If not, then you should definately move on.
Daniel Amis
www.relationshipadvice4you.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): What the heck kind of story is this? Sounds to me like she asked for a divorce clear out the blue! Were you guys having marital problems before the move? Because if not I think you should ignore her. Keep all discussion about the divorce. Marriage is no place to be playing games & I can almost assure you she's not planning to re-kindle ANYTHING. If you see her hoping for some kind of re-conciliation then you're gonna get hurt.
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