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My mate has cut contact with me completely since he has a new girlfriend, should I give up contacting him?

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Question - (14 July 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 July 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, *eterk5699 writes:

Right, this is probably gonna be a long one I'm afraid so bear with me.

I met my "mate" at the end of 2006 on a 12 wk course I took and we found became close to best friends. We were both into the same music, played guitar etc and we'd hang out twice a week or so, grab lunch, the normal a couple of mates do.

Then it came to around November '07 and suddenly he wasn't replying to texts, wasn't coming online, nothing. I then found he had met a new girlfriend (who now seems to have him wrapper round her little finger) and was living with him.

I haven't seen him since last year nor has there been much contact (no replies to texts, no coming online etc) even though it's clear he goes onto facebook and myspace often.

I was very down about this for age until 3 months ago when I met a particularly nice girl who I've since been dating.

Now he's living with his partner of 8 months who's "orders" he "obeys" to.

What I'm asking is should I keep trying or just give up?

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A male reader, Peterk5699 United Kingdom +, writes (15 July 2008):

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Peterk5699 agony auntThanks for the help. I'll send one more text at the end of this week and then give up. Like you said - if he's a good friend he'll reply.

Thanks again

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008):

You should give up...apparently you friend isn't mature enough to have a romantic relashonship and a friend relashonship at the same time. He may be to weak to tell his girlfriend 'NO' and you don['t want him comming back to you if they break up, because you know what he will do, ditch you and go running to her every beck and call. You are a good friend though, most people would not have given this much thought. So, Cudos on your self. Good Luck with your new girlfriend...I hope you marry her and have 12 kids....JK

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A male reader, jkoh United States +, writes (15 July 2008):

jkoh agony auntJust move on with him. If he is really ur freind he would have been contacting you! If he does talk to you he better have a really good explenation to why he is avoiding you.

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A female reader, xxsecretsxx United States +, writes (14 July 2008):

xxsecretsxx agony auntI think you should move on.

When a person so freely leaves you without a passing glance there is a high chance they would do it again if they see another person more fitting.

It's not healthy to continue trying to speak with him. Moving on will help you in the long run.

good luck

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