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Met her, texted her, no response, saw her with boyfriend, didn't talk, not interested? Should I forget it?

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Question - (8 June 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 8 June 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

ok you females really confuse me.

basically i met this girl at uni and i got her number. she said shes seein someone and i asked if it was long term and she said "its not and i don't know where things are going". she replied "yes" after i asked her if she would like to meet up sometime. we texted a few times then we both bumped into each other at a club (we didnt say anything then - she was with her boyfriend), and since then she hasn't replied to a txt i sent her before we bumped into one another. is she feelin like a tramp or insecure or sumin? - so she doesn't want to text?. otherwise she shouldn't had given me her number in the 1st place.

ps i do like her.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (8 June 2009):

TasteofIndia agony auntSounds like she made up her mind. She's got a boyfriend, so this is your cue to back off and cool off. Maybe her and her boyfriend got more serious, maybe she lost interest in you. Please consider that she may have given you her number because things were awkward and there was no good way to turn you down - or, maybe she liked the attention, or perhaps she was a little interested in you... but lost it. Maybe she was having a fight with her boyfriend and it made her feel good to get attention from a new fella, but then they made up and there you go.

If she's not texting you anymore, and is unavailable, I would chalk this up to lost interest and move on to the next girl. Good luck!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009):

You didn't say anythign to each other at all? Not even a wave or something tiny?

Becuase if you did, then it is likely there was some questioning on her bf's end as to who you were and some jealousy maybe and so she has deemed it inapporpriate to continue texting you.

If really nothing was exchanged, then she may have been texting you becuase she didn't figure she would actually ever see you again. Maybe she just thought "why not just text with him. He seems nice and I'm sure I won't see him again." and then she did see you again so figured she should stop texting you as to not elevate things further.

I'm thinking there was probably more of a relatinship with her boyfriend then she lead there on to be.

So maybe she's feeling embarassed?

There are several options and possibilties but either way the truth swings, you may just want to move on and not put too much heart on this girl.

Also, I think most people appreciate not being forced together in a group of stereotype. I have seen four posters in the past hour refer to us as "all females" or "you females" or somethign alike that forms us into a group, as if we cannot think for ourselves and we are merely programmed to be a certain way.

Goodluck anyhow.

~SY.

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