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writes:Met someone and have feels for her. She is divorced with 3 children 39yrs. old. I am 49 and married, empty nester. My wife and I rarely have sex and sleep in separate quarters. The other woman is very nice, and laughs at all my jokes. I am starting to have feelings for her.I am just a fool or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): i will get into troble saying this but what the heck i have never steered clear of a healthy argument.i am very very sceptical of devorcees. they take take take and they care nothing of taking, and yes it means taking someone else's husband.having said the above all i can say is i think you know the answer to your question. you will be a bigger fool to get involved with a divorced woman with 3 kids. your kids are grown, you have done the kiddies parenting thing. now is the time to enjoy your life WITH YOUR WIFE. maybe your wife is also scared of the free time you both have, no kids around so how about using your energies to rediscover your wife and common interests. having an affair is just a receipe for disaster. why take over parenting another mnas 3 kids, why share your finances with another mans kids. why pay for their upkeep and their well being. soon you will be looking towards retirement. call me a *itch for my thinking above but so many women latch on to other womens husbands in order for these men to daddy their kids. don't fall into this trap. you did your parenting. now enjoy your freedom.
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reader, Christine82  +, writes (17 May 2010):
Lots go through this, we think the grass is greener on the other side butit seldom is. Talk to your wife, tell her how you are feeling. See If you can't be happy again with your wife.
Good luck
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reader, TimmD +, writes (17 May 2010):
 Are you a fool for having those feelings or thoughts? No. Would you be a fool for acting on them and cheating on your wife? Yes.
This is the commitment you made all those years ago, my friend.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 May 2010):
I'm sure once upon a time your wife and you laughed at jokes together, slept together and such. You're making a mistake if you go onto have an affair. I think you need to step back and look at your marriage. Can it be fixed and are both you and your wife interested in even keeping it fixed? If it can be fixed, then put all the effort into you marriage. If it can be fixed, then end the marriage and focus on getting your own life back together before you move on with another woman. But don't make the mistake of leaving one woman for another.
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