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writes:So, School, of course, just recently started. Well, I newly like this boy, and so does my step-niece(she's older than me by one year). We all three have the same 6th hour together. Well, she knows I like hime, and quite a bit. Well, she's already made friends with him, and as I am majorly shy, she's starting to keep getting closer and closer with him. I know being shy, I got a lower chance of actually getting with him, but she should know not to do this. She's bratty and a lot of times, she only cares for herself. I'm crazy to even trust her to not date him but she's family, and I want to trust her. I know she would do this, especially since she likes him. Honestly, what should I do? If I try to tell her to not get with him, she'd get mad and probably do something, and we'd get into a fight. I want to stay away from fighting with her, and I have no clue of what to do. Should I just stand back, and watch her get with the guy I like??
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 August 2012):
 I know people like to do it, but I don't believe in calling "dips" on other human beings. So you liked him first, but you didn't do anything about it. So that makes him off limits?
Yes, in a perfect world people would respect that you were interested and she would not pursue him, but in reality if you don't make a move, why shouldn't she try? If she likes him too?
Talk to him maybe? And maybe be a little more guarded when it comes to crushes on boys and this "step-niece" character.
Who knows, he may not even like her? Or you.. But if you don't make a move you will never know.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2012):
 Am sorry but you are not in any position to tell her she cannot get with this guy. She is not doing anything wrong, yes you like him, but so does she, so I guess really it is just up to him if he wants to get with any of you. Maybe it is a good excuse now to try and step away from being shy, hard work and confidence can pay off you no. So instead of standing back start being more confident. Talk to him and get to know him, it really is not all that difficult. If you are not willing to try then all you can do is sit back and watch your step niece go for it with him, and if she does then you need to remember that she is not doing any thing wrong it is not like he belongs to you or anything.
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