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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi,My husbamd and I have been married 6 years we are in our 40's my husband and I have sex and talk naughty about threesomes often it is very hot. about 4 years ago we went to a hotel and I got him a stripper it was hot as hell. there was no invasesive things going on. But we have very heated sex when we talk dirty about threesomes so I recently has a friend that has been divorced for a year that is dating others playing the field come over and play with us. He did not have sex with her she gave him a blow job and he gave her oral and fingered her. I touched her breast and he asked if he could have intercourse with her. I said no and he was ok with it and we all had fun. But now he wants more and this is scarey for me . help
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): you have a right to have concerns. soon you won't be enough for your man. i think you know he wants your friend bad. and he won't just stop just because you have to told to. be prepared for some sneaking aroung and some pain and betrayal. this is a reality when you include a known third party into your marriage. if you and him want to start experimenting with others, do not include people you know. do your homework and find a stranger. this divorced 'friend"' can become a potentioal threat to you and your marriage. please listen to the warning bells ringing in your head. this pandora's box should not have been opened with the friend and your hb. i note that you only inlcude a female to satify him. what about introducing another male.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Yep, I agree with Eyes. It's so difficult to say "no" now. But, you might try your luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): i agree with eyes... and the other posters... how can you now tell him no? I understand but closing that box is going to be hard. The only thing you can do is explain how insecure it made you feel, how all of this is making you feel.
in life when we open a door we expect people to walk through it. so, slamming the door shut after is almost pointless.
your only option is to communicate how you feel. explaining why you don't want to do it again and so forth.
I hope all goes well for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): Well you are in your 40's, I assume without kids. Get rid of the hangups.
I say get into the threesomes and just embrace the tingles. My boyfriend and I have had many threesomes and a lot of foursomes with our closest couple of friends. We just make sure we keep everything clean and tidy and stay within our group of friends. Stay away bringing strangers into your threesome (fear of STD's and all). We do have one rule and that is our guys cannot cum inside a girl's vagina unless she is their partner. Blow job cum, however, is not off limits.
Just set the ground rules and enjoy!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 August 2009):
 This is what happens once you've opened Pandora's Box, it's mighty hard to get it closed again. You can try to discuss this with your husband, he may be willing to become mutually exclusive but then again it's a case of "How Ya' Gonna Keep 'Em Down On the Farm, After they Seen Paree" kind of thing. Best of luck.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Tell him no, you don't want it. Explain to him how you feel about another threesome. I am sure he will understand. Good Luck!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 August 2009):
 I suggest that you be honest with your man. IF you don't wish to go further in your exploration of sex or try a tree-some again, be honest. Be prepared to explain WHY you don't want to try again.
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