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*mmy babbbez
writes:okay so me and my (best friend) have been friends for 6 years..we had a unique friendship, we were sisters, she was my other half, my life, my everything. her house was my second home. I mean in most friendships this was the case but me and hers was rare..i would do anything for this girl i trusted her more then i trust anyone and i can trust my life in her hands and i no that it was mutual. things started to change last year when we had a new group of friends..me and her dont get along with girls that well because we dont like the drama so we hangout with mostly boys. we are both very pretty girls and thats why most of the time we would reuin are friends by hooking up with them. soo we got this new group of boys that i really had fun with, i told her to try not to like any of them because i want to keep this group as friends. however she started hooking up with one of these guys behind my back because she didnt want me to be mad. i found out a month later and it hurt me more then anything because thats the first thing she ever keept from me. w.e we got past this and things were fine..she stopped talking to him, however this year they started hanging out again and i gave her a attitude about it and would just not talk to her when she was with him. me and her are hardly ever apart and that started to change..we started going diffrent ways with diffrent groups of people and it was a sad thing because we are growing up and we arent use to not being apart. we talked about it and came to ammends that we arent going to be together as much as when we were younger but we will make time for each other and no matter what always be bestfriend. I had a boyfriend that i just started seeing and she wasnt even trying to get to know him how she usually would be. me and him broke up and i needed her there. she didnt come through because she was with the kid i now hate who she hooked up with and now chills with. i told her clearly she changed and isnt a best friend and i am stubborn and started ignoring her. we got into a fight in text messages and decided it was best to end are friendship it felt like a relationship we packed the stuff we had and gave it back. she changed, shes not how she use to be shes been partying more, i just found out she lost it to him which she said she wasnt going to do for a while. we dont talk at all and i miss her more then anything..i sent her are song on facebook in a message and she read it and didnt write back. i am really heartbroken. my family misses her beacause she was part of it but they understand. her boyfriends ( the kid she hooked up with) is going away to college. i dont no if shes going to come back to me, but i dont no if she does even what to do because we havent talked in 2 months now really and idn this changed my whole life...(if you read all this thank you) and all the advice i can get will help!
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reader, Jen,  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Well clearly you would be heartbroken because you were best friends for 6 solid years. Now that's a long time. Maybe things didn't work out the way the you wanted it to be, but remember nothing's perfect. Times have moved on, things will change, not everything last's forever. It's harsh but it's the
fact.
Your friend has clearly moved on, maybe give her a call and tell her how much you miss her. She might or might not say yes, but if she does start on a gentle relationship. Remember if she says no she has clearly moved on. And maybe you should too.
Good Luck and I hope it works out for you xx
Jen x
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