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writes:Can love be easily confused for an obsession?... I love my bf to death and he feels the same about me but we fight a lot and feel strong feelings of leaving one another but the same about our love. Could we be obsessed with one another, comfortable with each other or are we really truely in love? I say its love but sometimes it does feel like an obsession. But when i tune back into my feelings i know that what i feel is real. Could i be acting dramatic? Am i in denial? AM i afraid of being lonely? but he feels the same way... I'm confused. By the way he is my first love and we've been dating for 2 and a half years. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): You love each other but its sounds like you might be over doing things. Learn to relax and not pick fights with each other and instead enjoy being together.
You might be having commitment issues, like you feel you are trapped by this love and can't get out, and therefor you get insecure, you pick fights, and you get confused.
Try to relax! You are over dramatic. Think about what do you want in life? Do you see a future with him? Are you genuinely happy? Can there be other things in your life you are miserable about that have become a problem in your relationship?
Maybe you spend too much time together, or you have ended up in a situation you are not comfortable in.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 February 2010):
If you're spending every moment with each other, if you're jealous when you're not together, if you're always going out together and if you're always checking up on each other, that's obsession. If you're happy, if you're spending most of your time together but sometimes going out with friends by yourselves, if you have your own hobbies that you can pursue, then you're in love. I would suggest that if you argue a lot and are constantly thinking about breaking up that it's more of an obsession than it is love.
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