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writes:Hi. Recently my best friend of 6 years and I had sex. It wasn't a complete surprise because the attraction has always been there and we always talked about it. Well now that it's finally happened, we both enjoyed it very much and when it came time to take me home, he did. Now that I've been away from him I feel more distant. I mean in the last 6 years we'd always go a weeks without talking due to our schedules and the fact we live an hour from each other. I guess now I see it differently maybe because sex is involved. Its not that I like him like him it's the fact that I'm afraid I've lost my best friend. I highly doubt a guy would spend 6 years talking to a girl to just get down her pants. I'm not sure if it's awkward for him or what but I don't really know how to talk to him about it to just make sure were still cool and as good of good of friends as before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. I appreciated your comments. I called him after work and he seemed fine. I guess I'm starting to want more than him and should just watch myself...I don't want to become that crazy stalker girl lol so I'll let him come to me...if that will ever happen. Again thanks :)
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (5 August 2012):
Why not just meet up again to see how the atmosphere is? If it's awkward and there's tension, talk to him frankly about this and about your and his wishes. Don't let it dangle, deal with it head on. It's scary because it's unfamiliar territory after 6 years, but at the same time he's your friend and talking shouldn't be that hard. Just make sure you get your wishes across so their can be no doubts and what-ifs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2012): OP I think you're making this out to be a far bigger deal than it actually is.
How do you talk to your friend of 6 years? You tell me haha.
Just talk about it, ask him if it's made things awkward, how hard is that? He's been your friend for that long now surely there aren't many things, if any, that you can't talk to him about.
Look while sex does have a way of spoiling friendships and complicating things, it's very possible that hasn't happened.
Either way you need to clear the air here OP so just get in contact and talk it out.
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reader, G_D  +, writes (4 August 2012):
 then try to talk about anything except "sex" .. if you feel things r as usual .. you'll be happy ..
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