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writes:I'm about to turn 25 and i'm having a quarter life crisis. Every other aspect of my life is good. I'm graduating from grad school soon, I have a great job that I love. The only thing that is going wrong is my lack of a love life. I want marriage and a family, but with every passing day I feel like my chances of having this is getting slimmer and slimmer. It does not help that my mom is constantly telling me that i'm getting older, that i have fine lines, that starting from 25, i'm just going to go downhill from here. It's putting so much stress on me and making me ever more sad than i already am. I get that I'm single, this isn't by choice. I hate she's constantly reminding me I'm getting older and less wannted. A lot of my friends are already engaged or married and starting a family now. I feel left behind and lonely because I'm always the odd person in the group now. I don't even know where to start looking for someone because I don't know a single guy that isn't already in a relationship, around my age. Do you guys have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): HiYour age is not old but your attitude towards your life is.don't worry aout fine lines it's the least of your worries. Life is passing you by quite correct....you are so young and should be celebrating your life and enjoying every adventure it offers you...why search for something that will find you one day when the time is right...just get on with living. Forget what everyone else has or is doing..this is you and your unique life...the world is at your feet. Regards Mum just laugh and remember she may be just wanting grandchildren...buy her a teddy bear and grow up pestering you to settle down. spunky monkey
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): Darling, you are sooooo young! You should be having fun not worrying about having a husband. Your mum should not be saying those things.Enjoy life and stop worrying about it xx
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reader, unmeidaagonyaunt +, writes (23 October 2011):
 When your mother says such horrible things, just say "EH?" really loudly. In other words, pretend that you can't hear her, and if she doesn't get the point, loudly proclaim that you are incapable of hearing "such things". She will get the message before too long.
You are going at your own pace. Don't give up! And don't worry about the romantic side of things; that tends to fall into place once you get your own house in order, so to speak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): lots of people i know didn't get married til their 30s and 40s. lots of people who marry earlier in life end up divorced by the time they're 40. being 25 is still young. and sad to say but with the divorce rate being what it is you don't know if people you know who are married now will still be married 10, 15 years from now. just trying to say don't compare yourself to other people because anything can happen. you could find the guy of your dreams tomorrow, next month, next year. Your friends who are married now could end up divorced in the future. comparisons with other people don't do any good, just focus on your life and don't let others interfere.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 I didn't get married until I was 28 my sister was 36 and many more of my friends were very late 20's or early 30's before they met and married Mr. Right. So don't fret you are not on the shelf yet :-) Have you told your Mum how she makes you feel when she says stuff like that to you? Spend your time doing things you love and pretty soon you will find you are so happy and forfilled that your wont have time for a man and then that's when you will meet someone.
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