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writes:Recently got chatting to a british soldier deployed overseas. Seem to really click and have been chatting nearly every day for over a month. Have agreed to meet up when he is back from duty, which will be in a couple of months.Sometimes he is quite open when I ask him questions, sometimes not. I've told him a little about me but he doesn't ask too much. Is he just being cautious? He did say he doesm't like talking about himself? He is divorced and been single for over a year now, and I do believe that.What gets me is that sometimes he turns the conversation into more of a sexual nature, nothing crude, just mainly heavy flirting. I know that is what deployed soldiers do when they are away lol!It is obvious that there is an attraction, he said he thought I was good looking and like the pic I sent him. Nothing rude - though he has asked - which I refused. Just want to know what you guys think. My gut feeling is saying it is not just a sex thing and we seem to be on the samewave length about life, outlooks etc but opposite in some other ways. He is a Leo, I'm Libra, apparently quite a good combination?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): yes i have heard of those scams and wouldn't give money to anyone i didn't know.
going to ask to write to him instead of email and see if he does give me a genuine address. I have checked emails and they are at least from the UK.
thanks for your concern x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Hey darling, keep in mind that men are not as talkative and detailed on their talks as us girls.
Also be careful out there when people claim they are overseas soldiers, not to be mean but if you have not heard of a Nigerean scam please google it and read about it... I had a friend that had this happen to her, she was chatting with this soldier overseas, then he asked her to send him money to get out, or for the ticket, or to reicieve some money, or send some package... she actually sent money out, when we realized she had gotten scammed. So please google around for Nigerean Love scams, and be informed.
I hope this is not the case but I wanted to warn you.. 3
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reader, chita22  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Leos love compliments they could never get enough. That is 1 of the most ways to get his attention and make him fall inlove. He is a king and u have to remember that he likes everything his way no questions asked. If u like to lead and take control this will never work out he loves control because he thinks its his job. They love to show off and be center of attention so u sending anything u need to becareful cause most likely he is showing them off. Libras r amazing people who kind of fall in love fast so don't give all your heart fast take your time w/what u want. U guys r compatible if u work @ it but leos r a lot of work so good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Thanks for you replies.
Keeping an open mind with this one and taking my time.
I suppose I would be open to meeting him but not for a one-off but I wouldn't say i'm expecting long term either.
angelDlite - yes I am aware things are shared by soldiers, so he has only got a normal picture. i have been a bit flirty and cheeky with him but nothing crude, as that is not me. I suppose I just want to chat, flirt and be friendly without it turning to sex, sex, sex lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): right star signs aside, i suppose looking at it sensibly he's been away fighting for his country and he's been single for a year. I think that as long as he isnt being crude, a bit of flirting wouldnt harm anyone but what you should be careful of is that you dont let him get the wrong impression of your expectations in him. If you r expecting some big romance when this man comes home then you may well be dissapointed. Just try not to build up all your hopes of a lasting relationship. Determine yourself to just take it one step at a time and see how it goes. If all he wanted was a fling and your okay with that, then enjoy it while it lasts and if he's genuine and looking for a long term relationship then it will come as a welcomed surprise. Best of luck hun x
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (4 January 2011):
 hi
forget the leo libra thing for now. you can't base a potential relationship on astrology i think, what you can base it on is the fact that he has already asked you for a sexy photo of yourself (i'm guessing he has not seen you before, is this someone you met on-line? or have i got it wrong?)he also keeps turning the conversation round to sex. i am sensing that you find this behaviour uncomfortable as you are not participating in it. people can often say things that make them appear they are on your wavelength, talk is easy, get to know him more and get to know him in real life before you decide he if he is truly on your wavelength or not. a good read is this (here on dear cupid) called 'women: actions speak louder than words' by Cerberus. i think you would really benefit from reading it. do be aware if this man does ever meet up with you in person, he is going to want to have sex with you, quickly. you do not know his marital/relationship status, is this one of the things he avoids talking about? and while you are chatting on-line and he is trying to involve you in sex-chat, he could have a gang of squaddies leaning over his shoulder, reading your answers and hoping for something hot to read, so be careful what you write. sorry to sound harsh about him, but i just don't like to see anyone get emotionally hooked on someone they barely know who then turns out to be really not worth the heartache it brings. an on-line relationship with a cheeky soldier who just wants to brighten up his day by talking about sex is fine for some women who are equally as flirty and cheeky but you seem to be a little more sensitive than that
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