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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello.I've been married to my wife for 15 years now. I'm 43, she's a year older.I'm British, she's American. She's lived over here for 22 years now.We met when I was 25 and she was 26, she was a student here, I was in a job that was well-paid; eventually I obviously earned enough to get her to come here permanently.I learnt something about my wife which was a bit disturbing.No, it's not extremely disturbing like paedophilia or violence.The disturbing thing was she'd somehow wangled her way into the lockdown parties which are now notorious here in the UK. How she'd got into them I've no idea. Her job doesn't involve the need to meet with government, and I thought in all honesty she couldn't work during the lockdowns. She got paid, and paid the American taxes too.Allegedly she'd bulk-bought a load of snacks and food and drink and shared them during the lockdown parties 2 years ago and a year ago, especially during the royal funeral.I've asked her to explain why and how but she's just unwilling or unable to discuss.I didn't get angry at her or shout, but I'm concerned about this.This is probably our second biggest argument; the last time we had such a big argument was over me coming into a large sum of money in our bank account, a windfall that was actually from a competition I won in the run-up to Christmas a decade ago! I won over £8,000 at the time, adjusted for inflation £10,400.I don't want to be the spouse who's angry or suspicious but this whole incident is worrying me.Why would she go to these parties and how did she get access to them, without me?I'm not jealous about not going, but wondering why, especially if her job role didn't even involve having parties.I thought I knew my wife really well.For other couples this could mean divorce, but I want to stick to the vows of my marriage, just like mum and dad who are still happy together.I realize this is probably a possibly semi-unique situation but need your help on things.I love my wife but this is a situation I don't know how to figure out.Basically, the person causing the conflict is my wife, due to a revelation, there's only two people involved here, me and my wife. No-one else.
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (5 June 2022):
So you're saying that your wife attended these government lockdown parties that have been in the headlines?
How did you find out she went?
What proof do you have?
Your wife's story is so far fetched that she's probably spoofing you to cover up an affair.
Or (and I suspect that this is more likely), YOU are spoofing us.
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