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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago and since then, he's been on my case about every little thing that I do! He insists on knowing where I go and with who every time I go somewhere and he's always starting arguments about tiny things. I've tried to see him as just a friend but I can only think of him as a clingy ex-boyfriend. Would it be better if I stopped talking to him or not?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 August 2014):
 The friendship is not adding anything positive to your life, its time to let it go, stop giving him any information about your life and your movements. Don't initiate conversations or contact, limit your time with him, if he contacts you be polite and non communicative.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (11 August 2014):
 Yes, I think the point of trying to be friends is past. He is holding you back from moving forward, from being WHO you are and living YOUR life.
I agree that you need to go no contact. Tell what you intend on doing, THEN do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2014): Yes, it would be better to kick him to the curb once and for all.
Trying to remain friends is often what people try to do to ease the guilt of dumping someone; or ease the pain of being dumped.
I don't know who initiated your breakup; but your boyfriend is bitter and he is punishing you for how he feels. He still thinks he's your boyfriend, or should be. Now set the record straight, and show him he's not. Thanks to his poor behavior, now he isn't a friend either. Stick to your guns.
If you end the friendship, you must go no contact; no matter what he does to break it. He's on your case about everything; because you didn't completely cut ties to allow him to get the point the old relationship is over; and you're over him. He needs a chance to get-over you.
I hope you didn't agree to be friends to keep that from happening. It's not fair to either of you. You both broke-up for a reason, and need to be able to move on; and have other relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2014): Look. To be honest this is a tricky situation of it's the first time you've dealt with something like this. It's hard to be in the relationship as a friend but you need to cut him out 100% it sounds harsh but trust me in a few months you'll notice the difference. I had the same thing with my ex and when I started dating my now husband and father of my daughter he would send me texts everyday for a year about how he'd look after me and stop any problems... It's better to just start your life afresh. Plus no new boyfriend wants to see messages from your ex!!! Hope it works out for you! Cate x
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