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*cfcjak
writes:Hi all, I would be thankfull for any help here. Basically foe the past 2 weeks I have gotten close to this guy on a LGBT forum and we have both told each other how we feel. Unfortnetly we broke the site rules by flirting too much and suggesting to meet up (you have to private message to do this and he was not a full member yet) and I have been banned for a month. I have begged the admin staff however they wont change their mind and I feel devasted. I really like this guy but I just feel like it is over as a month is too long to wait and he might move on by then. I have no way of talking to him. Can anyone give me any advice for getting over this, I feel so bad right now. I would be really grateful.Thanks
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reader, lcfcjak +, writes (11 August 2014):
lcfcjak is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply. We had pics of each other on the site, sorry I should have mentioned that. But you're right, I broke the rules and have only known him for 2 weeks. I dont get how I can fall for a guy after only 2 weeks. I must have gotten desperate I guess.
Thanks again, much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2014): It's just human-nature kicking in. Anything you're told you can't have, you just want all the more.
You have no real certainty that you were ever really going to meet this guy; because it's always a 50/50 chance that people you meet online will show-up for a date.
If it's a LGBT chat-forum; they often use avatars, and you don't actually see the people you're chatting with. There are often no age-restrictions, and lots of rules.
Your crush is based on what?
You've only known of the guy for two weeks, and you're already gaga? Pleading with the staff to allow you to continue breaking their rules. Really?!!
They did you a big favor by suspending your membership; because you ignored rules that are in-place to protect you and other subscribers. It will also slow your roll.
Man, seriously?!!
You should really take a chill-pill, and take it easy.
Go find yourself a credible online gay-dating site. If you're trying to get around the cost, find a free one.
You'll have to pay for special features; but you don't break any rules, and people are fully screened and available for dating. Not just for chat. Both situations are very risky when it comes to meeting up with strangers met online.
Meanwhile; go to the gym, and hangout with some friends.
Clear your head.
If they lift your suspension; follow the rules! It's for your own safety, and the site doesn't need the liability. You never know when there is a troll, pedophile, or a basher plotting to find you to do you harm. Trolls sometimes go on gay sites to hurt gullible lonely gay people. Those sites can't be responsible for foolishness and the stupidity of it's subscribers. They have to protect under-aged teen-subscribers.
You're trying to use a chat-forum as an online dating site. IM's are setup to enable participants (under anonymity)to engage in real-time conversations. You abused this feature. If he wasn't a full-member, he has not completed the screening process. You both agreed to the terms and rules of no-flirting or attempting to meet.
The staff is correct to standby their rules and enforcing their standard of conduct. People can get seriously hurt, or set-up with a potential stalker, predator, or worse!
How close can you get in only two weeks? You've never met.
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