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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, i'm 17 and i've been dating this really attractive girl for going on 3 months now. The sex is amazing and so is the oral, but the other night when i was receiving oral, i lasted a bit too long and it started to lose feeling after a while, resulting in me losing my erection. Now obviously the next time she went to give me oral the next day, i was completely freaking out about if it happens again. This time less then a couple of minutes into it, i lost my erection again. I KNOW this is a psychological issue, as i have no troubles by myself or normally. Just need some advice on how to get back to normal. I've tried relaxing and stuff, but now i'm just a constant wreck whenever we get intimate.Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010): Give her oral instead, then you wont have to focus on your erection. And I am sure giving her oral and having her naked with you will put you right back in the mood as well. Just do things not involving you getting hard and enjoy it. Make sure she understand she didn't do anything wrong though! We women want to please, not be a turn off, and we're not always sure if a flaccid penis means we're not hot enough or what...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010): i can partially agree with the female anon. i'm all for quality over quantity. even though men are ALWAYS in the mood for intimate interaction if you limit yourself, you want it more. and also if you stop masturbating or at least reduce how often you masturbate, you become more sensitive in your penis and pubic area in general. also if you find yourself getting soft, try touching her body. im personally fond of squeezing my girlfriends breasts, bouncing them also. try different positions in which oral is given. personally, it is easier to come when im on my back and legs and feet are in front of me stretching as far as i can as if im on my tip toes. give it a try. it might help.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 January 2010):
You need to get yourself back in the mood again, that's all. Spend time hugging her and being with her and it will come back. Also, if you're lasting too long with oral, just stop and do something else.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 January 2010):
You need to give the oral stuff a break and get your confidence back up.
Anyone can decide they are no longer in the mood and just want to cuddle instead.... and if you aren't in the mood then you are going to loose feeling down there.
So give it all a rest for a bit and stick to other stuff. Take her out and do something nice together rather than just have sex.
Good Luck!! xx
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