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I've pointed out the red flags but feel like my g/f never gives me a clear answer

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Question - (29 September 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 September 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

So homecoming is coming up. I'm not going, i dont really like dances. But my gf is, and im really scared she going to be dancing on other girls since i'm not their with her. My friends keep telling me ,they see her playing with other girls. She told me she would never cheat on me but a part of me just don't believe it. Everytime i confort her about what people tell me she say this how come people break up..Should i be worried cause she won't fully answer my question? and should i talk to her about the other girls?

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (30 September 2012):

Ciar agony auntTalk to her about the other girls? You mean the other girls with whom she MIGHT cheat? Besides telling you she won't cheat on you there really isn't anything else she can say, is there?

The only way she can prove she won't cheat is by not cheating. Words mean very little here.

Do you consider dancing with another girl to be cheating? I don't and neither do most people. That is as long as the dancing doesn't consist of kissing and grinding pelvises together.

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A female reader, mooh Australia +, writes (29 September 2012):

if you are really worried about it, why don't you go to the homecoming as well? maybe it will turn out that you will have an awesome time with your gf.

Otherwise, it's not like you can chain her up and forbid her to go there. The only thing you can do is trust her, that she won't do anything weird while you're not around. Otherwise, you may want to re-think about your relationship. do you want to be with someone who has a tendency to do more then flirting, do you feel like she doesn't respect you? is this feasible/compatible on the long-run (how is her interaction with others when you're socializing? have you noticed any inappropriate things apart from the gossip from your friends?)?

In general, you can't change a person's behavior/personality - in a relationship you need to accept the other person's flaws and qualities.

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