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writes:I have been married for ten years now, i always thougt i had found my soulmate. now im not so sure i have been spending alot of time talking with another man whom i have great feelings for and i know he feels the same way, he wants me to leave and move out of country to be with him im in canada he is in the usa i feel so lost and unsure as what i am supose to do. i know i have to make a choice but there is so many things that pull me back and forth between the two, and when i think of saying good bye it feels so wrong. i know i cant continue to hurt my husband but i fell so hard for this other man
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 relationships are really complicated as you have to consider all your feelings and the other persons feelings and try and work out what is right and wrong. once you bring a third party into the formulae you can't really gauge what's right or wrong. it's too complicated. it's complicated enough when there's only 2 of you. This is all supposed to be going on below the surface while you enjoy your normal lives together. It's supposed to be love and it should work but doesn't always. Don't burn too many bridges you don't get that many chances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): This is something that you will have to think about very carefully dear coz what if it doesn't work out the way you think it would?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): Well sorry to say, but you put yourself in that situation by looking for fulfillment outside of your marriage to make up for what you were lacking from your husband. What if your husband did that to you? How would you feel.? Have you done everything you can to save your marriage?
Is it just infatuation with this new guy? Sometimes we marry the wrong person..but you should really analyze the situation before walking out. Personally I think you're making a mistake..
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 All relationships seem fresh in the begining but in time they all turn out the same. If you are no longer in love with your husband and think you have found love than leave your husband. Go to a new country with a man you have only seen his good side because you are not with him most of his days and only see the ups. Leave the protection, love, and home that your husband has given you for a while maybe.Or leave this relationship and concentrate on your marriage and search in your heart and see if this marriage is worth saving. Your husband has seen you in your good and in your bad, when you are all dolled up or trashed up. And he stilled loves you because you're you. Are you willing to end it all for a homewrecker? Do you think your husband deserves this? At least give him a fair shot and tell him about your affair and let him make his own decision. At least he will be given the chance to fight for his marriage.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Only you can answer this question I'm afraid. I know you have come on here for some help but nobody is going to be able to make your mind up for you.
You need to be really sure that this other man is the one for you. Because if he is not and it does not work out well then you would have wasted a perfectly good 10 years of marriage for something that was not meant to be. I get that you have falling for him and it has throwing a spanner in the works but do you really know this man inside out? I mean you might think you know him but what if you move away and find that you cannot live under the same roof as this man. I am a true believer that you do not truely know somebody until you live with them. Just make sure that you are prepared to leave your husband and your life for someone or something that may not work out.
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