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writes:I'm in my late 20's and have been in a relationship with a guy for the past 6 years. It's been an overal great relationship and I've never cheated on him/nor him on me. I'm currently in grad school and have fighting the urge to "explore" with other guys...I have a huge crush on a guy here... I think it's more like an infatuation/borderline obsession! I KNOW it will never go anywhere... our mindsets are completely different. It's a pure physical attraction and I can't get him out of my mind no matter how much I am trying.Last week, in a drunken moment of stupidity, I asked him over and we made out (no sex but still, i'm feeling incredibly guilty...)I don't know what what to do. I want to get this guy out of my mind and focus all of my energy on my amazing boyfriend... anyone have any advice? I don't understand if this means I'm unhappy with my boyfriend or what?! I'm drowning here...please help if you can.xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): thank you thank you for your responses... I can't tell anyone here so it's so comforting to be able to hear from anyone on this subject. Thanks, really
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (17 April 2007):
 I don't know how to stop thinking about someone, I also tried before. But somehow it worked at the end. Try not to get in contact with him. If you are in temptation to do anything, call a friend. Maybe you know someone you can trust and tell about your feelings. And maybe this person will be next to you, when ever you need it. If your releationship to your boyfriend is good enough, you could tell him, but if you don't feel comfortable about this, tell an other person. Try to detract from thinking of him. Call a friend, read a book, listen to good musik, go out, do anything what could help. Above all try to do something with your boyfriend as much as you can, so that you realise how much he meens to you.
It's very hard not letting your feelings dominate your live and mind. You allready realised that it's only pure physical attraction. So probably your boyfriend will understand you. And if you really can show you, you still love him and you don't want to loose him, I'm sure he will try to help you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): It is the danger and secrecy and illicitness that is making this "fling" seem so attractive. If you think your boyfriend of 6 years is right for you then try to think of something that would make that relationship more exciting and forget this "fling".
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