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It's only on nights out when we drink we confess we love each other. Do drunken thoughts speak sober minds?

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Question - (10 June 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 11 June 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I think I may be falling for my best friend (P)

I have never felt like this about anyone. I'm scared of how I feel even P has said he is.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend. 

P let me know about my ex cheating on me twice.

But my ex denied this.

When me and my ex were together P always said if it wasn't for me being in a relationship he'd want to be with me (deep down I wanted this)

Me and P have been out recently and kissed. We kissed when I was seeing my ex too. 

My sister asked P if he'd ever get with me and he said no (this was last week) but they have also kissed when out :/ But P always says how I'm better than my sister.

But last night he text me saying his feelings are growing stronger for me and he loves me. It's only on nights out when we drink we confess we love each other. Do drunken thoughts speak sober minds?

But we have mentioned it sober but we do get shy. But it is spoken about. We often have deep discussions about love and we know each-other so well. 

Im confused by everything that's been said to me as well as behind my back. I think so highly of P. I would love to be with him but he's one of my best of friends... 

Confused :S

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (11 June 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntOh Yeah.... You're falling for him.....

What do you propose to do.... stay drunk, throughout your lives, so that you can tell each other that you love one-another??????

Try dealing with one-another when you are sober.... then, STAY SOBER and see if you actually like one-another.....

Good luck....

P.S. Drunk sex NEVER counts!!!!!

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (11 June 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntIf you are scared and confused, then P isn't the guy for you. When someone is "THE GUY"...you know it. There isn't a question about it. Confusion means that your instincts are telling you something...usually to back away and figure out what is confusing about the situation you are in. I think it would be very hard to have recently broken up with your boyfriend and now you are already jumping into another relationship with someone else? Take some time to have fun and not worry about things. Obviously you and P are seeing one another...continue to do that if that is what you want. What I would like to know is if P had evidence your ex was really cheating or if he broke the two of you up because he liked you.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (11 June 2012):

chigirl agony auntAsk him out on a proper date, with no alcohol.

I think he does feel the same way about you as you feel about him, but you are both worried of being the first one to openly SAY it, in case the other one backs out.

I don't understand what you have to be shy about, really. I understand more why he is shy, or scared of coming forth. But you? He already HAS told you he wants to be with you. When you were with your ex. He told you. And now he's kissed you. How blunt about this can he possible get? You on the other hand haven't told you him you feel the same way. You "deep down" wanted it, but you never confessed this to him. He doesn't know what you truly feel until you tell him.

And you should tell him before he assumes you aren't interested in him and moves on.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 June 2012):

Honeypie agony auntTalk to him sober.

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