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writes:Dear all,I'm currently having a LDR with a guy who I see sometimes every other/weekend for 8 months as his in tbe military. We're very happy and have made and booked future plans for next January his always treating me to holidays and really sweet.I've met his family and his met mine. He's even mentioned about our childrens surnames in passing!!!But he still hasn't told me he loves me. I'm his first girlfriend and he's 29 years old. He told me he thought he loves a girl once who was just a fling.What shall I do? I love him dearly and I don't won't to push him, we had a talk a couple of months ago and he said he cares about me but doesn't love me and we haven't talked about it since.From past experience do these situations ever work outThank you. Xx
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reader, LoveForeverxoxo  +, writes (29 July 2012):
Well if im reading right you said you've been seeing eachother for 8 months? That might be the reason, to women 8 months is a long time, to men 8 months is their just finally getting use to you.
Men dont like to rush things. Eventually at the right time ( if you dont bring it up ) he will say it. When he feels its the right moment.
Trust me on this, and dont worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): It's one thing him not telling you he loves you (he could, but is not the type to tell you), another him telling you he doesn't love you. If everything else is fine, then you could have another conversation along the lines of: what is this relationship if you don't love me - I think he owes you some sort of answer to that, or you are wasting your time with him.
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 July 2012):
 He is probably genuine but has trouble expressing his emotions. Some guys are like that.
Explain to him that you love the way he is and everything he does. But that you need more actions and not just words. And you also need some words that really would mean a lot to you, IF he wants to say those words to you.
If saying "I love you" is too hard for him after eight months then there is a little more relationship development required.
If he still, THEN, cannot say it then either he will always be a cold fish but express his love in other ways. Or he does not really love you and just enjoys the occasional sex in an LDR.
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