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writes:Hey Im 16 Me and my boyfriend tried to have sex for the first time a few nights ago and i was so nervous that it was like there was no hole at all.He tried using his finger and it hurt so much.It was so painful,why was it so sore ? ..and will it always be like that ?everytime i think about tryint it again i freak out please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): Okay well it looks like there been some good answers.:D but i had the same problem what i did was i used my pinkie to finger myself(it could of been that your boyfriends finger was too big) that was my case okay so wet your pinkie (with lube or vaginal lubrication).and stimulate you vaginal area slowly.its not just you with this kind of problem.so once you think your vagina is used to it move it up to your ring finger.and you can choose to stay there or move up.doing this should loosen you up sooner or later you will be able to have actual intercouse GOOD LUCK :)
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reader, lovehate  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 I know exactly how you feel, its scary i've been through it.
As the posts below have said it's all down to being relaxed, the more nervous you are the more tense your muscles will be.
Have you been fingered before? Has it hurt in the past?
You are obviously going to be very 'tight' - don't worry every girl is before theyve had sex!
I would definately say that fore play will help. It will relax you and get you 'wet'. Your boyfriend doesn't need to finger you he can just stimulate your clitoris- you being 'wet' will help the entry of the penis.
If you would like anymore advice, private message me. I get it, im only a year older!!
Good luck X
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Masturbating will help. Also alot of fore play so theat you are ready to go and you have to find a way to relax as he enters you. Take some deep breaths and get him to go very slowly, also lube will probably help with this.
Its all about being relaxed. It may be tight like that for a long time but once you're past that initial penetration everything should be just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): i think others can offer better advice, but meantime, i suggest masturbating. It will allow you to go at your own pace, flow, and get more acclimated with yourself down there. Your vagina should eventually become more stimulated and loosen up.
Generally the first time, maybe first few times, do hurt. But eventually that goes away and it is more of a pleasurable experience. Don't go nuts when that happens =P You may not think so, but it will... haha.
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