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writes:Ok so at the moment I’m really confused I have always felt things for men, I Think there sexy and someday I wand a boyfriendbut recently I have found myself getting hard over Women. I can’t say I really find them attractive and I have never felt like I want to go out with one or wanted to have sex with them. but I have for men. And now I’m confused because I found that I came quicker an easier when thinking of a woman but it didn’t feel as good as when thinking of a man.I have always thought I was gay but these feelings [as listed above] have confused me and they have only started recently so what I wondering is if I’m Gay or Bi or straight because I cant say I have feelings towards women Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 I think you're trying too hard to put yourself in a box. I'm a believer in the Kinsey scale (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale), and I think that there's an awful lot of gray area in sexuality. So don't get freaked out that you're finding yourself attracted to women sometimes and men most of the time. It's natural for your body to just be attracted to whatever it feels right to be attracted to.
Don't be so set on labeling yourself. Eventually you'll learn exactly what it is that you want to call yourself. For now, you're young and your sexuality is still developing, so don't worry about it! Good luck, sweetness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): You're bi, by the sounds of it. Congratulations!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): I believe that human beings are sexual. We're all a little gay, straight, bi, etc. Ultimately your confusion is normal. I'd say it can't hurt to try dating someone you like, male or female. Just be careful and don't rush into sex.
As for your fantasies... Do whatever it takes. What's in your head doesn't have to play out in reality, that's why it is a fantasy. I fantasize about stuff I know I will never do, still, it's fun to think about.
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