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writes:Hello, I'm writing because my girlfriend broke up with me almost 2 months ago. We had a great relationship and to this day she says there was no "real reason" to break up, she just needed time to think about things, as her grandmother passed away and I was focused on school and we were just in an odd place. We broke up and planned on reuniting within a week or so, but it just didn't feel right to her, so about a month into the break up, I let her go. She texted me a few days later saying that she think she made a mistake and that she wants to try again. We went on a few dates to catch up and then one really nice date for Valentines day. Following the date, I stayed overnight and we cuddled to sleep and kissed goodnight just like we used to. It was really nice to have her back again. The next day there was a bad snowstorm so I ended up staying there another night as my car got stuck, and we spent the day watching tv and talking through things, where she told me she definitely wanted to try, and that I'm what she wants. My only concern is that after these two overwhelming days together, (I say overwhelming because it was a lot of time together at once when being apart for so long) she doesn't text me or contact me. I texted her yesterday but it didn't really last long. Is it normal for her to want some space and to let her come to me, or is it a sign that she isn't that interested anymore? She said she was a little overwhelmed and that she wanted to take things slowly, she does care about me but she isn't sure how she feels completely yet. We were together for 8 months before the breakup, honestly the best 8 months I've had and I was in a 4 year relationship before her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2015): I'd actually listen to her if I were you.As in: do take it slow...but also don't pin all your hopes on it working out to your satisfaction.To me it seems that she still doesn't know exactly what she wants. That's fine. You're both young,you're both figuring it all out. FYI,8 months is still rose-tinted glasses period.Since you've already been in a long,committed relationship-how did you feel at the end of those 4 years? Or more accurately maybe-how did you feel about your then gf at 3years and 6 months? 2years and 6 months? When the initial white-hot passion, she-is-so-perfect-for-me,I-am-so-god-damn-happy period was a bit worn off?Honestly I do not know why people expect to be always in love throughout the length of the relationship. That always seemed very unrealistic to me. As a wise couple of 50+ years together once told me: "You fall in love, you fall out of love. Just make sure you don't fall out of love with each other at the same time."-i.e. one person is always pulling/maintaining the relationship a tiny bit more. And roles can be reversed throughout your time together,of course.I think she is definitely interested in you and in a relationship with you. As she is quite possibly not 100% sure(80%-maybe; 90%-maybe,but it doesn't seem to be 100% which is what makes her have doubts) if that's really what she wants maybe she doesn't want to drag you and your heart through hell whilst she is figuring it all out?
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