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writes:I am 40 years old, but I can pass for a twenty something student. I ended a 10 year relationship two years ago. Afterwards I did the whole dating thing Internet, friend setups blind date, even the call the ex late at night for a booty call...I was content, stress free happy to be single!At work, there is a new guy. He is 28. We hit it off, he's friendly, he's nice, attractive, he knows my age, but I'm confused because I don't know if he is flirting with me? Is he wanting more?He one arm hugs me in the morning when we meet up at work. he waits for me at lunch, he will sometimes grab my hand and hold it. On his days off he will call or text to say hi. What does this mean? I'm not used to this...I feel flattered but at the same time I am torn about which direction I should take this. He is a valued employee, and so am I...he hasn't outright said he is interested or attracted to me, but he is clearly smitten. I am hoping one of us comes to our senses and puts a stop to this flirtation(!?!?)
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reader, TimmD +, writes (18 March 2010):
 I wouldn't automatically assume he just wants a booty call. If you can go slow and keep things as outside of work as possible then I say what do you have to lose? Feel young, enjoy it. Just make sure you make it clear that you want to not start off too serious and that you don't want to effect life during work hours. He clearly likes you so you can either regret not doing anything for the rest of your life, or do it! Good luck! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello everyone, Thank you all so much for your insights and advice, it was greatly appreciated!
For now, I will take it slow, get to know him, enjoy this new friendship, and KEEP my job...I really don't want to mess that up.
I sorta panicked, as I've never really seen myself with a younger man.
My last relationships were comfortable, loving but not at all passionate, more about a need? also I think of my ex fondly, every now and then...but now this guy comes along and awakens all these weird new emotions and feelings, bizarre. I guess I feel ummm...young?
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reader, Mel70 +, writes (2 March 2010):
Do you like him? I am assuming that workplace relationships aren't acceptable at your place of employment. I guess these are the big questions. It sounds like you're having fun, tho!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): If you're not sure what it means, then I'm really wondering how much of a lack of intimacy there was in your previous relationship, so good for you for ending it, btw. You should try to date this guy and give him a chance outside of work. If it doesn't work out the way you plan, then put a stop to the flirting at work, so he doesn't get the wrong idea that you still want to be with him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 March 2010):
I think he likes you, but it might be that he likes the idea of being an older woman, rather than something more permanent. I would suggest getting to know him more before you make any decisions.
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