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writes:I'm 20 and I'm in love with a 39 year old man. He's a professor at the University I attend, in the major I'm pursuing. I think he may feel the same way about me as I do him, but I'm not sure. We have movie night at least once a week at his house. We talk everyday via email, texts of phone calls. We play basketball together, go to museums, concerts and talk about everything. He cooks me dinner and keeps my favorite drinks in his fridge. He's met my entire family, and I have met everyone in his family except his Mom (who I will meet very soon when she comes to visit.)and both of his best friends. He's already made plans for my 21st birthday. He's kissed me two different times. Is he interested? Or just extremly friendly?
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reader, bballchick2405 +, writes (5 March 2007):
bballchick2405 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I will finish my degree regardless of what happens between my and the professor. My feelings have nothing to do with sex. We have not and will not sleep together unless we're in a very serious relationship. The kisses were more like short make-out sessions. He is not my professor, and I would never do anything to jepordize his career, nor would he mine. He's my best friend and he would never take advantage of me (And no I'm not saying this bc I love him and can't see past that.).
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): How did all this come about? I thought you are going to college to get a degree? Continue on with it. Get that degree. On the other hand, your professor...cut that loose before you completely fall for this guy. There's a lot of students falling for their professor and/or it's a sex thing. Your professor should know off hand, no relationships with your students. Going to dinner? If you're spending the majority of your time with him, how are you finishing up on your other classes?
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 He kissed you on the lips, right? Cuz if it's been a grandfatherly kiss on the cheek, I'd hold back on the love if I were you!
Assuming that they were lover-like kisses = Sure he's interested!! So far it sounds like a quaint little romance, and completely above board even - the only thing that makes me concerned is that you're still in University. I don't want to rain on your parade or anything, but you have to promise yourself that WHATEVER may happen in your relationship with Prof, you MUST MUST MUST finish your university degree, ok?
Some people might tell you that this relationship is an infatuation, or a sexual fantasy and therefore you should move ahead with caution and reserve. Others might tell you that he's taking advantage of the situation - Prof to student relationship which is NOT allowed in University if he is YOUR prof. If this IS the case, you should try to rearrange your course load (get another prof) so that neither of your best interests are in conflict. He could lose his job and his professional credibility for pursuing a relationship with you, and at the very least, ppl might think you're scoring your grades a different way. (hint hint nudge nudge derisive guffaw)
I know, I'm being a drag - it's better to know what you're getting into before you're armpit-deep in it. That's what dearcupid's for, right?
All in all, it seems like a very charming relationship. I wish you all the best in it.
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