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writes:I have a male friend, we've been friends for about almost 2 years now, we get on really well, but I wouldnt say we are super close - defo a good friendship there tho. When we meet up we just have such a laugh, he always asks me how things are going in my life, remembers specific things i've told him etc - he's a really nice guy. About a month ago he went abroad to see his family for a while but before he eleft we both went to a party together and ended up becoming quite close. Nothing happened, we just had one of those long chats and ended up cuddling eachother on and off through out the night. He then left to go abroad. I didnt think anything of it because we are just friends. During his time abroad, probably because we cant see eachother we've been chatting over msn most nights. We spend hours just chatting about our days, talking about what we're up to etc. Thing is though, in the last month him and I have become quite close. I look forward to our chats at night time and get excited when I see he's emailed me. We've spoken about things we've never spoken about before. We've spoken about our relationships, our family backgrounds etc. I broke up with my bf of almost a year about 4 months ago but am over him because after we broke up I realised love is blind and now I can see I deserved better. My friend is in a relationship with his long term gf (been together almost 3 years i think), but their relationship is on the rocks because they have become different people and he told me he is really considering breaking up with her. He doesn't know I've started having feelings for him though we have been quite flirty with eachother. Also, he's going to be moving to the same city as me in a few motnhs and has suggested meeting up more often. Im really starting to like him. My question is, should I back away now and save getting hurt incase he doesnt break up with his gf? Or should I pursue this? He is coming back to Britain at the end of this week, and we will be seeing eachother very shortly. Ive never felt this way about him before, he's always just been the friend who I chatted to at parties, and now I'm actually starting to develop a bit of a crush on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): HONESTLY... THATS A HARD SITUATION TO FIGURE OUT... although, being friends is always a start to a GREAT relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): He said he is seriously considering breaking up with his girlfriend. This doesnt sound to me like a definite decision on his part. I think you should be friends with him theres no harm in that. But leave all the flirting off. By cuddling him and doing coupley things like that you are giving him what he wants. Why would he break up with his girlfriend when he can cuddle you and meet up with you knowing you havent a problem with him being in another relationship. He will be having his cake and eating it too.Just dont hope for anything other than friendship and anything more will be an added bonus.Goodluck.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 I think you should continue being his friend but if things get hotter, make sure he is not only going through a crisis with his girlfriend and is (sub?)consciously using you as a temopary getaway. If he is having a troublesome relationship right now he might be a little confused about what he wants even though he shows differently. Be patient and wait and see how it develops, use your head and eyes before your heart here and take it easy. And remember, you do have a right to ask him what is going on with the two of you since he is cuddling with you while in a relationship with another girl.
Good luck!
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reader, Pezzer888 +, writes (6 January 2008):
It sounds like he may want to break up with his gf if he knows your interested. If he has been flirting with you then he must have some feelings towards you. You say he is moving to the same city as you. Well if thats true he will be moving further away from his gf and if things haven't been going well between them they might be concidering breaking up. Next time you see him see if he has broken up with his gf and try flirting with him. Watch for his reaction. Hope it all goes ok and tell me what happens. xxx
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reader, AJ jess ^..^ +, writes (6 January 2008):
 i would say wait until he has broken up with his gf, and until you know he feels the same for you, if your looking for a long term relationship with this guy then you want to know that he will be commited to you, i understand it may be hard to wait untill he has split up with hi gf but i strongly advise that you do so that if you do develop a relationship with him its not based on a lie in the first place. x x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Just enjoy your friendship with him and decide when you come to the bridge.
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