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Is this a compliment "I chose you" ???

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Question - (28 July 2016) 7 Answers - (Newest, 29 July 2016)
A female South Africa age 51-59, *dge4323 writes:

No problem just a question.

If your husband/wife, partner lover whatever tells you "I CHOSE YOU" how do you receive it, as a compliment or an insult? We had the same question asked on facebook but most see it as a compliment. I don't! What's your opinion?

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (29 July 2016):

Anonymous 123 agony auntI get what you mean-it sounds a bit condescending, that I could have chosen anyone but I've done you a favor by choosing you.

However, it's meant to be a compliment

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (29 July 2016):

It's definitely a compliment. My boyfriend has told me that a number of times, and I've said it in return. I don't know about you, but it makes me feel good to hear him say he has chosen me above all others. He does have options; so do I. Yet we've weeded our way through all types, and found each other.

His tastes are particular and his standards are high, his saying he chose me tells me I was the best he's ever seen.

It is not a demeaning comment. It can be taken out of context if you have insecurities about how someone feels about you or suffer from an inferiority complex.

The world is full of cynicism, bitterness, insecurities, and on the opposite end of the spectrum...conceit. So compliments can be distorted and twisted, depending on who is on the receiving end; and how they interpret what is said. If a good person says it, how could it be anything but a compliment?

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A female reader, miss frank United Kingdom +, writes (29 July 2016):

To say something like thus means the person making the statement values themselves as a person worth being with, and the person they say it to should feel it a compliment as they are saying I am worthy and I chose you as you are amazing and I want to be with you. What's your problem with it?

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A female reader, edge4323 South Africa +, writes (29 July 2016):

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Hi why I see it as an insult is the fact that this guy who started this debate on fb is that his wife said to him "I chose you didn't I ? He had a problem with that! But when I thought about it, it made sense, as if you should be grateful your partner chose you, implying that you have "catch" the big price, if I haven't chose you what would have become of you type of thing. I asked the question here because I know you guys will be truthful as on fb everybody's name shows and people don't always say what they think or feel

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (28 July 2016):

Tisha-1 agony auntSeems like a compliment to me. Why do you hold the opinion that it’s an insult?

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (28 July 2016):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntBefore giving you a considered answer, it would be helpful if you would advise us what was the other choice.....


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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (28 July 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntI would not really see it as either, why would you be insulted that he choose you? Most would see it as a compliment because it meant that there was someone else in the picture but that he choose you not them, I guess others don't want to be seen as some sort of a prize or that there ever should have been other people in the picture, but to me that is unrealistic.

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