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Is the "hidden menu" on his phone a sign that he's hiding porn use?

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Question - (9 February 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2014)
A female United States age 36-40, *eebooger writes:

I have noticed my mans phone has this sprint hidden menue. what exactly is that? is it a way to hide things from me like porn? we have had serious issues in the past. he is trying to over come an addiction.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (9 February 2014):

Maybe he's not the right guy for you?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014):

Dump him, and move on. Rather than snooping around on him and judging him.

When you are in a relationship with a person fighting addiction of any type, or alcoholism. They don't really learn the consequences, or fight their addiction with conviction; until they hit rock-bottom and lose something precious.

That is, if you're not just being nosy and invading on his privacy.

Welcome to the 21st century. Many men view porn. Good luck finding one who doesn't, or hasn't.

If he knows he has a problem specifically with porn-addiction, and hides it from you; then he is in-effect lying and deceiving both of you.

If he is your husband, and it effects your sex-life and it is totally out of control (hopefully you don't have kids) you still have to set a powerful ultimatum; because he is allowing his addiction to supersede his marriage in priority. You don't have to live with it.

Without confrontation, you'll never really know why he has a hidden menu. If you're wrong, and it was something that has always been there. It may have nothing at all to do with porn. I hope he will admonish you for your intrusion on his privacy. Yes, everyone is entitled to some privacy.

You don't want him to know everything down to the smallest detail. You'd be furious if he went behind your back snooping around on you or your past. You'd be pissed feeling he doesn't trust you.

If he is a boyfriend. You don't need to be snooping around on him; because whatever behavior you can't live with, you can just breakup and leave. Find yourself someone you won't be wasting your feelings on. What can you do once you find out something bad after "snooping?" Usually just fight about it.

The problem in your relationship is not just porn. It's the lack of trust.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (9 February 2014):

person12345 agony auntHidden menu usually refers to ways to "hack" an android phone, like do resets or mess with the programming on the phone.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014):

It is extremely hard to a man to give porn when he is addicted. It's a sad world we are living in when 2d pictures have more of a hold on someone than a real person does. My ex lost someone be loved because of it.

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A female reader, AuntyEm United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2014):

AuntyEm agony auntAn addiction to porn?

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