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writes:Question here for the ladies. i went on a couple of dates a year ago with a girl from my building and i found out she was crushing on me for months before i asked her out and she told me she was reffering to me as the hot guy on the third floor. i was obviously crushing on her at the same time but i had this overwhelming feeling this girl was gonna be the one before our first date. weird i know but thats never happened to me before and i dated alot of girls. she has two young kids with two fathers and i dont have the best reputation in town so once she found out my lastname her friends told her bad things. i showed up drunk for our second date and she dumped me after that. she still has feeling for her ex but i think she has feelings for me to but he is the safer bet to her im sure. anyway that was a year ago and everytime i see her i get different reactions. mad, happy, annoyed and so on. three months ago i told her i still like her and she said she was working things out with her ex. about a month ago i have caught her staring and when i look she turns very quickly. then i seen her in the hall and she gave me this big hello with a smile and i basically just walked by her. my best friend now works with her ex/boyfriend and he made it clear to him i was with another woman now (im not) but i wanted this to get back to her and make her jealous. the only reason why, is cause i wanna know if she actually has feelings for me or not. my friend who works with her ex told me yesterday the guy asked him to go for dinner with his girlfriend and this girl, like on a double date cause the girl i like wants to pick my friends girls mind about this university program. she knows he is my best friend and never even met the guy so why did she do this? is she wanting to go for this dinner to really get info on a program or has an agenda. yes she would be going with her boyfriend to the dinner but she knows he is my best friend so it will obviously get back to me. i know this is confusing but is she retaliating some way by doing this? is she trying to piss me off? like you can get info about a program anywhere so why from my besfriends girl over dinner. why in the world would she wanna attend a dinner with my great friends for years and her current boyfriend? this just seems odd to me and i think she has retaliated. its obvious we are gonna see eachother around so i just dont get it or am i reading to much into it? please help. i was in love with this girl at first sight and thats the gods honest truth. like i said, from the pit of my gut i think she likes me but with my rep and the way i acted im sure she is concerned about taking a chance on me and ending up with a third kid and three dads and then i dump her or something. im guessing thats a huge fear of hers. she must figure her and i will have some communication after her dinner with my bestfriend and his girlfriend. ladies, what the heck is going on?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 STOP trying to mind read when you haven't a clue as to what she's thinking. Don't even try it. They're nothing but assumptions that are driving you mad.
You are reading WAY too much into this. Take it at face value. She's going with her boyfriend and who cares who else she goes with?? The girl has a boyfriend. Respect that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): Yes, she can get this information anywhere, including asking someone who has already been through it, which is what she's doing. I doubt the evening was set up with the sole purpose of digging for information about you, but even if she is curious, she may simply be killing two birds with one stone.Your scenario sounds familiar. I think you posted a question about this several months back. If this is the same OP, then this game of cat and mouse has gone on for quite some time. The woman is obviously not stable and therefore not relationship material. At least not at this stage of her life. She's hot and cold with you. She has two kids by two different men, then she's in a back and forth relationship with an ex? Take a pass.Life doesn't have to be this complicated. Keep it simple and date a confident, happy woman who has her act together. There are plenty out there.
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