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writes:So I went on a date with a girl I met online last week. I thought it was great, we just walked and talked for like a few hours, although I thought that I might've been a bit more awkward than I normally am, but in general I thought we hit it off. At the end I gave her a hug and said we should do this again, she agreed then we parted ways. I texted her the next day asking if she's free this coming weekend, she said yes, so we're going to spend Sunday together.I'm getting a bit paranoid that she's losing interest though after seeing me in person. Before the first date, we were texting and emailing each other everyday. Since our date there hasn't been much contact outside of arranging the next date. Is this normal? Am I just being over paranoid? I've tried to initiate contact once or twice but to very limited success, although she says she's still keen for our next date.I dunno, I'm just afraid that she's losing interest or maybe I'm not what she expected given that we've gone from texting and emailing regularly to pretty limited conversation. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2014): I've honestly found that online messaging/ texting, even calling doesn't determine how much interest someone truly has - ESPECIALLY not of they're agreeing to go on dates with you... Lol.Often when romantic feelings develop, texting seems more trivial, and people MAY even feel nervous about texting in case the person doesn't reply back- they're more emotionally invested. Stop overthinking things, as someone who used to do this crazily, I've truly learnt you never learn anything from dwelling on the same doubts... Things went well you reckon AND she agreed to another date :) she didn't make an excuse or say no. It's likely she's nervous or just saving things up in anticipation. Like honey pie says, if she cancels and doesn't rearrange, or at the last minute, probably forget it. Things may or may not work out. Don't get too stressed about it, whatever happens, happens. Good luck :)
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (14 May 2014):
Yeah worrying about that stuff is undermining your confidence, and that can be a real turn off.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 May 2014):
 Maybe she's saving it up to be interesting on the date?
wait and see how Sunday goes before you fret about anything.
I think Honeypie has given very solid advice.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 May 2014):
 If she is still on for the date I think you are OK. It can be that she feel a little more "relaxed" about how you two are moving along. Now if she cancels last minute I would take it as if she has lost interest.
Don't build a relationship based on HOW much you text/call. BUILD it on getting to KNOW each other and THAT means spending time TOGETHER, not texting.
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