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Is she dropping hints or am I mistaken?

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Question - (28 December 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 29 December 2013)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Im not sure if im interpreting the signs correctly. I have a female coworker who is very touchy feely with me. Im lesbian so it doesn't bother me, she however don't know my sexual orientation. Anyhow, I notice when we are around each other she make an effort to touch me. examples; I said excuse me to get to the refrigerator and she slightly move so I could squeeze through then she grazed her breasts across my arm. She put her breasts on me during another occasion. When im looking off I then look at her and notice shes looking at me and holding that stare until I make contact then she gives a smirk and I always end up looking away. She always ask me how she looks, I always say wonderful. She ask me to feel her body bc she had worked out, she didn't hesitate to touch mines n I didn't even ask. Then again this could be all wishful thinking or how some straight girls act. Just didn't know whether she is hinting at something and trying to open me up.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 December 2013):

Honeypie agony auntIt's not normal "straight woman" behavior. And she is certainly not being work appropriate.

I would just ignore it and try and back off. No matter what her sexual orientation is, she is rather aggressive with it and that has no place in the work-place.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada + , writes (28 December 2013):

janniepeg agony auntStraight girls don't act this way. She is flirting with you but I wouldn't look at it as an invitation for sex. Sounds like she wants validation from both men and women after her hard work at the gym. When you respond positively it is a reward for her. I don't care if her target is man or woman, her hitting on people does not have to mean she wants a relationship with them. That's not how you do it anyways. Not anything short of sexual harassment. The only hint I get is that she is image crazy and has a big ego.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2013):

I think her behaviour is inappriate at work whatever her sexual orientation.

You should be very wary of this person, and start making moves to distance yourself until you know her better.

She may be just enjoying making you feel uncomfortable or genuinely be attracted to you, but work is work. Be professional but friendly and don't get dragged into her very inappropriate behaviour, as if she is not lesbian it could backfire on you, and until you know her better be aware your not yet sure of her motives

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