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*rvhappy
writes:Hi there,I would like an input ideally from the ladies out there.Her goes:-I will call her "Sally" and call myself "Ben" (not our real names)30yrs ago almost to the day I met a wonderful,intelligent,kind, considerate beautiful young lady at a Saturdays Job that had.She was 16 and I was 18. She's English and I am Asian. We got on very well and used to have great innocent fun on the Saturdays @ wk. There was a lot of chemistry between us which every one commented on! Eventually I finally raised the courage to ask her out and she said yes.When she told her parents about us, they were a bit surprised....was an unusual time back then for an English girl to date a Asian guy. They came to "see her at work" on Saturday and they saw us together working at the same counter. She later told me that her parents had watched us for approx 20 mins before they came to say hi...and her mother was gob smacked at the electricity/chemistry that there was between Sally and me. She later joked that her mum had started to plan the wedding!!The relationship turned into a wonderful warm loving one and we were both smitten. People used to tell us that despite our different back grounds. we made a lovely couple. It was difficult at times as people used to stare at us..but Sally didnt care..if anything she showed me more affection (we were both very shy)We talked/laughed/kissed/hugged/supported each other and were inseparable...in the moments that we could be together.....the only problem was my dad...I was banned from going out as I had to study for my impending A Levels. This caused a great strain on our love...and finally we split after a the best period of my life.We still worked together, but couldn’t talk to each other as there was too much pain on both sides. Not only had I lost my love, I had also lost my Best Friend :(. She started dating someone else shortly after..but that ended as I later found out that she was still in love with me.Finally I went to Uni and tried to forget her. However mutual friends of ours invited me to her 18th Birthday Party and I went. She was dating some-one else then, but when she saw me, her eyes lit up as they always used to whenever we looked at each other. At the party she came up to me and put her arm around me and chatted to me for ages. Every-one noticed that the love/chemistry was still there.After I graduated, I called her and we chatted on the phone. I asked her to meet me for a coffee but she declined as she was seeing someone else, however, we still spoke for ages, neither of us wanted to end the call.I lost contact with her after that approx 25 yrs agoI have had a few relationships since then, but noting that was a beautiful as the one that I had with SallyI registered on Friends Reunited a few years ago. but didn’t really take much notice of it.Approx 6weeks ago, a girl (Paula) from my infants school uploaded a class photo. I contacted Paula and asked her to email me the photo as i couldn’t see the faces very clearly due to the size/quality of the print.In the mean time, I have had some professional exams so I didnt check the site.Right, now comes the strange part.After my exams, I checked to see if there were any messages, and Sally came up as a "..do you know this person". (she has an unusual surname thats how I recognized her name). This really spooked me out (NO 1)as we didnt go to the same school/college/uni etc. There is was NO LINK between us on this site.I contacted Sally to say "Hi..how you are you?". She responded (on my Birthday) and advised me that (spooky No 2) "... she was just telling someone about the fun times that we had when we worked in the store.." and asked me if I was still in contact with a mutual friend and if I still lived in the area? She signed off with a " x" I responded to he mail and asked her a few q's and asked her to add me as a friend.(Spooky No 3.)After my exams, I went onto You Tube for the 1st time in a yr....and Sally's favourite record that she used to sing to me was listed next to one of my favs!!In the mean time I uploaded a photo of my Motorbike (i'm prevented from putting photos on line due to my line of work)I didnt hear from Sally for a week, but she did accept my invite, and she uploaded a couple of photos of herself..one when we were together, and what looks like a more recent one. but no response to my mail :(In her profile she states that she is married and has 3 kids. But she doesnt use her married name (she always used to use my surname when we were together!!)I am very very confused. I cant sleep/concentrate and I dont know what to do. Is she just being polite or is she asking me to get in touch....I dont want to get involved if she is married. She didnt play games when we were together so I guess she doesnt play them nowThanks for reading thisCan someone pls help?
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (13 May 2010):
mrvhappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Diamond Girlx,Thanks for that comment i really appreciate that.I just wondered why she put a current?.. and and old photo of herself on her profile....thats what really confuses me and the fact that she not using her married name!! (as most women her age do)
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reader, DiamondGirlx +, writes (13 May 2010):
 She is not asking you to get in touch i think she just has fond memories of you two and they will stay in both of your minds forever and maybe she would like to stay in contact as friends but i doubt anything further. x
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