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writes:ok what does a guy mean when he says "your playing hard to get"?is that a good thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 October 2009):
 Him asking you if you are playing hard to get means that he wants you to be interested in him.
Normally I don't believe in "playing" games, so I would be honest with him, if you ARE playing hard to get I would tell him maybe, if you are NOT then I would tell him, no.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (14 October 2009):
Usually a bad thing.
The only type of guys you'll attract doing so is players: they'll enjoy the challenge, then leave once it's gone.
Also, if a guy is interested in you, but that your "hard to get" level is higher than you market value (on the single market), then he'll just go to the next: no need to work very hard to get a so so girl...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): I actually think playing hard to get is a good thing. It makes you look unavailable and therefore something that the man has to work hard to catch. In the old days when I was young we were taught to play very hard to get, never phone a man, never sleep with them etc etc and then you would catch a good rich husband as the eligible guys would sleep around but not want that kind of woman for a wife. I know these times have long past but it has stood me in very good stead over the years. Playing hard to get also offers an air of mystery which men find appealing.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (14 October 2009):
 Well, if he's telling you you're playing hard to get it's not a good thing. But here's the advice I'll give you and anyone else on this planet for as long as I live. Don't play hard to get. Ever. Act honestly. Life is too short to play games. How in the world would you know how someone feels about you, the REAL YOU, if you never show them the real you? It's a waste of time in my opinion.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 October 2009):
When he's calling you out on it, no, it's not a good thing. He's getting mixed signals from you and isn't sure what to think. Obviously he likes you if he's sticking around and telling you how he feels. So from my experience, when a guy starts questioning about being hard-to-get, I think it's an invite for you to open up and let him know a little bit about what's on in your mind.
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reader, ellie:) +, writes (14 October 2009):
 it depends on da guy! he might think playing hard to get makes him want u more or he might think u r a jerk and childish! but in ur case it sounds like he doesnt like it!
GOOD LUCK =)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 October 2009):
 Well, I have not really figured this out after about 45 years since reaching legal age. In order to avoid stuck-up women, I therefore have shared life and love with the friendly ones, and in each case, we've had great fun and meaningful relationships. Even if it did not workout in the long run, there was always joy, caring and mutual satisfaction. In my case, the snooty girls have always been a waste and there were preferable sweet, friendly women to love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks but me and this guy dont date... he said this to me last year when i really didnt like him but as friends he took me to my prom and at the end of prom we kissed i stil didnt really like him cuz he was still goin thu the motions from a previous relationship "hes a known player" now this year i do like him but sorta been sending him mixed signals to protect myself.cuz of his past... im so lost what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Typically it is a bad thing. It means that he thinks you are playing games. Key word "playing". If you like him give him a clear indication, if you don't then don't flirt with him.
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